Hard Work

My wife often comments that since it takes so long for me to get ready to go out as a woman, is it worth it? Of course, it is worth it (what a silly question), but she does make a legitimate observation, i.e., it does take me a long time to get ready. My excuse is that I am obsessive compulsive. According to Wikipedia , "The phrase "obsessive-compulsive" has worked its way into the wider English lexicon, and is often used in an offhand manner to describe someone who is meticulous or absorbed in a cause. Such casual references should not be confused with obsessive-compulsive disorder…" (So, I'm not nuts, just a little crazy!) As a result, when I go out as a woman, I want to look as perfect as possible, which means flawless makeup and not a hair showing that should not be showing. I love putting on makeup and if I have the time, I indulge myself in the makeup process and can while away an hour or so putting on the war paint. But usually I don't have the time and I must get the job done as quickly as possible. After years of practice, I have my makeup routine down to about 35 minutes if everything goes smoothly. I see no way of reducing that time without cutting corners and I refuse to cut corners, so I invest 35 minutes putting on my face. The actual dressing is the easy part. I usually have my outfit picked out beforehand and I can have it on from soup to nuts, or should I say from girdle to wig in 15 minutes or less. The wig I wear these days is a "shake and bake" wig. I just shake it out, put it on my head, make a few adjustments, and I'm done. I use self-stick pre-glued nails and they go on in less than five minutes with no muss or fuss. So, once my makeup is on, I can be out the door in less than a half hour. Now the part I hate: hair depilation. I am hairy. It is everywhere and depending on what I plan to wear, it can take 30 minutes to an hour just to get rid of it all. I have long legs and they alone take some time to depilate. If I wear anything other than a long sleeved dress or top, then I have to depilate my arms. If I am wearing anything that exposes my shoulders, then they must be depilated, too. And so it goes for my chest and back if I am wearing anything that is low-cut in the front or back. Shaving my face is a joy in comparison. When I come face-to-face with my hairy problem, I start thinking that my wife might be right, is it worth it? Yes, it's hard work, but I still think it is worth every minute of it.
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Top 6 Makeup Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Your face is the first thing people notice about you. That means your makeup can make or break a feminine first impression.

Does your makeup application look more drag queen than beauty queen? Or have you mastered the art of subtle, beautiful makeup?

No matter what your skill level, there are a few key strategies that apply to everybody. Read on for my top 6 makeup tips for crossdressers and transgender women.

1. Invest in good makeup brushes

Quite simply, it’s impossible to apply masterful makeup without the right tools.

Forget about the tiny, cheap applicators that come packaged with most makeup. Upgrading to high quality brushes will give you much more control, immediately upgrading the look of your makeup.

Here are the basic brushes you should own:

  1. Foundation brush
  2. Concealer brush
  3. Powder brush
  4. Blush brush
  5. Flat eyeshadow brush
  6. Eyeshadow blending brush
  7. Lip brush

2. Use color correctors

If you have skin issues like a beard shadow, blemishes, or dark circles under your eyes, the solution is NOT to bury them under thick concealer. Your makeup will look much more natural if you start with a color corrector.

The idea behind color correctors is to use a complimentary tone to neutralize imperfections. This allows you to achieve beautiful skin with less makeup.

For example, you should use a pink or red corrector to neutralize a dark beard shadow – or a green corrector to neutralize redness.

3. Don’t ignore your eyebrows

A mistake I see many crossdressers and transgender women make is leaving the house with ungroomed eyebrows.

Since eyebrows create the frame for your face, they are literally one of the first things people notice about you. Why allow misshaped brows ruin an otherwise good makeup look?

If you can, get your eyebrows professionally shaped. A good esthetician can groom your eyebrows so they look good in both girl and guy mode (if need be).

4. Practice, practice, practice

Makeup is like any other skill – the more you practice, the better you get. And the better you get at doing your makeup, the prettier and more convincing you will look as a woman.


5. Book a lesson with a professional makeup artist

If you struggle with your makeup skills, one of the best investments you can make is a lesson with a professional makeup artist.

A good makeup artist will teach you proper makeup application techniques, help you find your best colors, and ensure that you are applying your makeup correctly. This is important because all the practice in the world won’t help if you are only reinforcing bad technique.

6. Take good care of your skin

Your skin is literally the canvas for your makeup.

Proper skin care can go a long way towards improving your skin’s texture and appearance. Not only will this make you look better, it’ll help your makeup go on smoother and last longer.

Here are 3 simple skin care tips to keep in mind:

  • Avoid using harsh soaps on your face. Use gentle facial cleansers only.
  • Apply facial moisturizer daily.
  • Use a face mask at least every other week. (This is a great ritual for pampering your inner woman!)

Keys to Long Term Financial Success as a TS Woman

There’s a handful of habits essential to your long term financial success. Following is a few I consider most important.

I learned these the hard way – through mistakes and setbacks. I’m hoping you don’t repeat my errors!

Keep your monthly “nut” low – even as you enjoy better success

Most often after we achieve success following a long period of financial hardship, we’re feeling a good bit of “pent up demand” for a variety of purchases. That’s fair: there’s nothing wrong with rewarding all your hard work, patience and persistence.

However, you need to remain acutely aware of keeping ongoing expenses minimized until you’re certain your savings and income cash flow are more than adequate.

As an example? I’m now a millionaire – but I’m still living like a collage student

Why am I doing that?

Happiness ia a positive cash flow

While my cash and assets are well situated, my ability to generate a decent income is hindered by a non-compete agreement. Until that changes? I decided to keep my monthly expenses to a minimum to conserve my hard-earned asset base. I’ll be the first to admit I’m probably over-cautious in this regard: the scars of once being destitute run deep.

However, I was always inspired by the his tory of Aristotle Onassis – the shipping magnet. He made his first million dollars trading tobacco’s while living in South America. He built that company while working as a late night telephone operator for ITT. Did he quit that midnight job after accumulating such wealth? No – he kept it – until he built a much larger operation: it paid his rent and allowed him to leverage his capital without risk to home or meals.

Higher fixed and semi-fixed monthly expenses: rent, phone, internet, TV, utilities, car notes, etc. – are one of the most limiting factor on future opportunities. I’ve seen so many people pass on what was probably the right choice for a new direction – because they weren’t willing to survive on less money in the short term.

Positive cash flow eventually solves almost every financial problem

I once had a dear and very talented friend who always had a new project or venture that was going to produce millions in the near future. The problem? His present operations were a break-even proposition at best. Those new projects never came to fruition and eventually, he lost everything.

Every successful person eventually learns that all economic problems are eventually solved through present positive cash flow. Without it? You’re forever stressed and dependent upon new and uncertain events to achieve success.

With any new endeavor? Reaching this first plateau is your only priority. very other long term vision is built upon this most basic building block of success.

You’ve got to save for the future: retirement planning for transgender women

I was once homeless, destitute, and had creditors chasing me for debts. That was definitely one of the worst phases of my life. However, the most debilitating issue I faced at that time? Thinking of my future as a old, destitute transsexual woman. That vision – that fear – often overwhelmed me.

Saving money is a slow and methodical process that goes against human nature. It’s only natural to want to live better today since the future is still unknown and uncertain.

However, once you get started? It gets addictive. Those compound interest rates that once killed you while you were in debt start working for you on the opposite side of the equation. If you have a 401K matching program at your job? You should be maxing it out as soon as possible. Those matching dollars offer an immediate rerun on investment you won’t find otherwise in the marketplace. Exactly where you invest is not nearly as important as building your savings. Almost any balanced investment portfolio will grow over time.

Nothing is as refreshing as feeling solid about your financial future.