How to Look Hot in Your Femme Photos (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Photos are a great way to share your femme self with the world.

But maybe you think you have to look like a model to take stunning photos?

Guess again! Taking beautiful photos is all about SKILL.

Here are my top 5 secrets for looking HOT in your femme photos:

1. Angle your body


When it comes to flattering photos, it’s all about the angles.

The #1 rule is to avoid facing the camera straight on. This tends to make your body look wider than it actually is.

Instead, angle your torso away from the camera. This creates the illusion of smaller shoulders and helps balance the proportions of your body.

2. Position the camera correctly


The camera angle has a huge impact on how your photos turn out. If the camera is too low, it can create the look of a double chin.

The camera lens should be positioned at or above eye level for the most flattering shots.

Another tip is to project your chin forward an inch or so more than normal. This helps define your jawline, regardless of the camera angle.

3. Find your best side


It’s not a myth that everybody has a “good side”. Our faces aren’t perfectly symmetrical, so they look different from each side.

Experiment with different facial angles until you find your best look. Try turning your face slightly right or left, and tilting your chin up and down.

Once you’ve found your good side, work it!

4. Watch your arms


Arms are a trouble spot for many crossdressers and transgender women.

Posing with your arms pressed against your body makes them look even bigger. Keep your arms slightly away from your body for a slimming effect.
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5 Ways to Look Thinner Instantly (Male to Female Transformation Tips)

Do you wish you had a thinner, more feminine figure right now?

I’m guessing the answer is YES!

The good news is that there are some easy tricks for looking 5 or 10 pounds thinner – instantly! (No diets or grueling workouts required.)

Here are 5 ways to slenderize your body now:

1. Wear clothes that fit right

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The way your clothes fit has a huge impact on how you look.

  • Clothes that are too tight highlight your trouble spots and emphasize fat rolls.
  • Clothes that are too big add bulk and give your body a formless shape.

Instead of squeezing or drowning your body with ill-fitting clothes, choose items that GRAZE your figure. Garments that skim along your body create a thinner illusion.

2. Go for V necks and open collars


V neck tops and open collars create flattering vertical lines down your torso (where most TG girls carry their weight) and help draw attention to your face.

If you have large breasts (or wear large breast forms), you should definitely stay away from high neck tops since these create a matronly look.

3. Choose flattering accessories

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Accessories are a great way to direct people’s eyes towards your assets – and AWAY from a beer belly or bulges.

Here are 3 suggestions:

  • Wear beautiful earrings to draw the focus away from your body to your face.
  • Wear long necklaces to create the illusion of a slimmer torso. (Vertical lines keep the eyes moving up and down instead of out.
  • If you have nice hands, wear bracelets and rings to bring attention to your wrists. This helps distract from big arms and/or broad shoulders.

4. Keep your chin up


A double chin can make even the thinnest girl look fat. Keep your chin lifted to give your neck a more defined look. This is especially important in photos.

While you’re at it, check your posture! Good posture can instantly take 5 pounds off your figure.

5. Choose your colors wisely

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I’m sure you’ve heard that wearing dark colors can downplay your trouble spots. While this is true, it doesn’t mean you have to live in black clothes.

Instead, wear clothes of a similar tone or intensity. A monochromatic look creates an uninterrupted vertical line. This makes you look thinner than if you were wearing contrasting colors. For example:

  • Wear a blue top with denim jeans.
  • Pair a burgundy cardigan with brown pants.
  • Add black pantyhose under a black dress.
Look your best – even with a few pounds to spare…

While there’s no substitute for a healthy diet and exercise, these tips can make a big difference in your appearance! (For more on this topic, I also suggest checking out 7 Belly-Flattening Fashion Tricks for Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women.)

I’d love to know how important an issue WEIGHT is for you…

Do you want to lose weight? Gain weight? Or are you blessed with a perfect body?

Please take my poll and leave your comments below!

“Girls’” Day Out

Friday, I attended the True Colors Conference and presented “Makeup Basics for Trans Females.” The site of the conference is the UConn campus in Storrs, Connecticut — one of my life’s happy places — and it is always wonderful to return to my alma mater. My presentation was at 1:15, so I did not have to get up early and rush to Storrs. Instead, I even had time for breakfast, dressed and left home at 9:30 arriving on campus an hour later. I wore a dress rather than pants as I originally intended and I don't think it made much of a difference during the five-minute walk between the parking garage and the Student Union. What I really needed was a hat. The wind was so blustery that I thought my wig was going to go airborne, but I made it indoors in one piece. (Fashion Note: I wore my black laser cut dress from Avon, nude pumps from Payless, fake white fur jacket from Fashion Bug, nude thigh high hosiery from Berskshire, big beige bag from Avon, jewelry from Napier and Avon and a variety of unmentionables.) Indoors, I checked in and received my presenter’s package. The first round of presentations were underway, so there were not many students moving through the building. I took advantage of the low level of activity to camp out in one of the Student Union lounges to go over the presenter’s package and review my presentation. I found a window seat with a nice view of the quadrangle between the Student Union and the Benton Art Museum. It is one of the few open spaces remaining from my days as a student on campus in the early 1970's. Most of the other open spaces have been taken over by classrooms, dorms and sports facilities (when I was going to UConn, we launched model rockets and played touch football in the space now occupied by the garage where I parked my car). That’s progress! After doing some paperwork and going over my presentation, I thought I was in an excellent spot for a photo, but I did not see anyone I knew to designate as the photographer. A woman seating nearby was reading texts or e-mails with her iPhone, so I figured she would be a good candidate to take some photos with my iPhone. So I asked and she was very happy to shoot me. Just as she began, one of my long time trans girlfriends, Angie, came into the lounge, called me “Beautiful” like she always does and that put a big smile on my face that is evident in the photos I posted from the conference. (It is amazing the difference between a posed smile and a natural smile.) As the time for my presentation approached, I found my assigned room and settled in. Thirty-two people showed up. They were all school-aged (middle school through college) and I thought that some of them were already gorgeous and did not need any help from me; they could probably teach me something. It turned out that one of the “gorgeous” girls works part-time at Sephora. I asked her a question about lip gloss that she was happy to answer, so "they" did teach me something! The presentation went well. There were questions, answers and a lot of give and take, but I don’t know. I wonder how valuable it is to teach teens and twenty-somethings makeup basics and tricks that a 66-year-old transwoman uses? Some of what I do is applicable, but I will have to make some adjustments to my presentation for any future young audiences. After my presentation, I attended my friend Diana’s presentation on post World War II trans history. One goal of her talk was to counter the popular notion that there was no trans advocacy until recently. Her presentation showed that there was a lot of trans advocacy throughout the post-war era including Stonewall, where trans peeps have been written out of some histories of that uprising. Diana and I planned to dine after her presentation, so we left UConn and rendezvoused a half hour later at a restaurant in Manchester, where we have dined after the previous two True Color Conferences. The big difference this year was that the conference was on St. Patrick’s Day, so the restaurant was busier than after past conferences. Our waitress was the same as in previous years and she was as affable as before, but this time, instead of referring to us as “ladies,” she called us “girls.” That was different in a good way and made me smile. After dinner, we went our separate ways and I arrived home at 7 PM, a little tired, but very happy after a productive day out.  

How to Dress for Your Age (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

You are never too young or too old to express your feminine self.

But that doesn’t mean you should ignore your age!

Dressing inappropriately for your age is a sure way to draw unwanted attention to yourself.

The good news is that you can look feminine and beautiful at ANY age.

Here are some tips – specifically for crossdressers and transgender women – on how to dress age-appropriately, no matter where you are in life.

Your 20s

20s: Style Inspiration

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20s: Style Tips

  • Your 20s are a time to play with trends and be adventurous. You’re still discovering your style, so take risks and have fun!
  • You’re not a teenager anymore. Stay away from adolescent clothing like midriff-baring tops, loud colors, sequins, rhinestones, and skimpy outfits.
  • You can get away with short skirts and body-baring styles, but be careful not to cross the line from sexy to slutty. Good taste is a fashion DO at any age.
Your 30s

30s: Style Inspiration

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30s: Style Tips

  • Your 30s are the time to start letting go of your wild past. You can still have fun, but now’s the time to add a touch of sophistication to your look.
  • Dress less casually than you did in your 20s and stop shopping in the junior’s department.
  • This is the perfect time to start building a wardrobe of classics while continuing to play with trendy items.
Your 40s

40s: Style Inspiration

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40s: Style Tips

  • 40 is the new 30! However, that doesn’t mean you should dress exactly like someone 10 years younger than you.
  • This is the age to start thinking about dressing in more tailored styles. Consider classic, clean shapes in bold colors or prints for added impact.
  • Go for simplicity rather than complicated details. From now on, your look should be clean, classy and sophisticated.
  • There’s no reason to turn down your sex appeal once you hit 40. But instead of baring it all, show off one part of your body and keep the rest covered.
Your 50s

50s: Style Inspiration

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50s: Style Tips

  • Now’s the time to start highlighting your face instead of your body.
  • Classic styles and modest cuts are your best friends.
  • It’s especially important to wear clothes that fit well. Choose tailored styles that skim your body instead of clinging.
  • As you get older, your clothes should get simpler. But simple doesn’t have to mean boring! Accessorize with bold jewelry, gorgeous bags, and great shoes.
Your 60s and Beyond

60s and Beyond: Style Inspiration

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60s and Beyond: Style Tips

  • By now you know yourself well and are past trying to look like a 30-year-old.
  • Much like a woman in her 50s, it’s best to stick to the classics, with lots of interesting jewelry and other accessories to liven up your face and wardrobe.
  • Invest in good quality shoes, handbags, and jewelry so you can enjoy them through this decade and beyond.
  • No matter how far past 60 you are, you NEVER have to dress in frumpy old lady clothes!
NOW is the Perfect Time to Be Your Best Femme Self!

The most important thing to know is that you can look sexy, beautiful, and feminine at any age. NOW is the perfect time to be your best femme self, so let’s celebrate your journey!

The Feminizing Power of Perfume (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Your feminine image is about more than just the way you look. It’s also about the way you speak, move, think, act, and smell. Yes, SMELL! Scent is strongly linked to emotions – and the right perfume can make you feel irresistibly feminine. How do you choose the perfect feminizing perfume? Here are the different types of perfume scents and the impressions they create:

Floral Perfumes

Floral perfumes are based on the scent of one flower (like lavender, rose, gardenia, or geranium) or a combination of several flowers. Floral perfumes are great for crossdressers and transgender women since they are the most feminine of fragrances. Wear a floral perfume when you want to express your soft, romantic side. Examples of floral perfumes include: Daisy by Marc Jacobs, Estée Lauder White Linen, Dior J’Adore, Stella by Stella McCartney, Kenzo Flower by Kenzo, and L‘Air du Temps by Nina Ricci.

Fruity Perfumes

Fruity perfumes contain citrus scents, such as lemon, grapefruit, strawberry, peach, kiwi, etc. Fruity perfumes are fresh and youthful, making them a great choice for when you want to feel confident and energetic. Examples of fruity perfumes include: L.A.M.B. by Gwen Stefani, Cartier Eau de Cartier, Sun Flowers by Elizabeth Arden, Beautiful Sheer by Estée Lauder, DKNY by Donna Karan, and Emporio White by Giorgio Armani.

Fresh Perfumes

Fresh perfumes (also called green scents) are light and airy. They are based on scents of grass, green leaves and the ocean. Fresh perfumes are energetic and rejuvenating. They are great to wear when you are out “en femme” since they boost your mood and put other people at ease. Examples of fresh perfumes include: J.Lo Glow by Jennifer Lopez, Fifth Avenue by Elizabeth Arden, Diorissimo, Dune by Christian Dior, Bond No. 9, and Safari by Ralph Lauren.

Oriental Perfumes

Oriental perfumes are rich and dramatic and smell of spices, musk, vanilla and heavy flowers. Oriental perfumes have a sexy and sophisticated air. Just be sure to choose a light scent since oriental perfumes can lean toward the masculine side. Examples of oriental perfumes include: Dior Addict, Lancome Attraction, Opium by Yves Saint Laurent, Samsara by Guerlain, Lalique Perfume by Lalique, and Sun Moon & Stars by Karl Lagerfeld.

Woody Perfumes

Woody perfumes are heavy and dramatic and are incorporate scents like sandalwood, patchouli, and cedar. Woody perfumes are sensual and exotic, but they are the most masculine of all fragrances. Therefore, you may want to avoid this particular fragrance type. Examples of woody perfumes include: Passion by Elizabeth Taylor, Escada by Escada, Lovely by Sarah Jessica Parker, Cashmere Mist by Donna Karan, Habanita by Molinard, and Givenchy Organza.
What’s YOUR favorite perfume?
Keep these guidelines in mind – but remember, the most important criteria for choosing a perfume is how pretty and feminine it makes YOU feel! What is YOUR favorite perfume? I’d love to know, so please share with me in the comments below.

How to respect a transgender woman in seven simple steps

How do you properly respect such a transgender person? Simple – there’s just a few essential instructions:

1. Use the appropriate gender pronoun

If you’ve known us for a long time in one gender and must get acclimated to another? That’s difficult – particularly at first. We know that – and won’t take offense if you slip now and then and still call us he. However, it can be dangerous if you slip too often – particularly in public environments. We never know when we might be seated next to a person who would react intensely by such disclosure. Also, we prefer to safely visit the ladies room without confrontation when nature calls.

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What’s the easiest way to get accustomed to using to our new pronoun? Use it – even when we’re not around. Oftentimes, amongst a group of old friends, somebody starts referring to us as “he” – when its now “she” – and others chime into that same rhythm.

Would you like to be a transgender person’s hero? Then always use she and have the courage to correct others when they get it wrong.

2. Never use a mean “He”

The transgender equivalent of the N-word is the “mean he” – where somebody uses this masculine pronoun as a weapon to publicly out or demean a transgender woman.

It’s one of the cruelest things you can say: thus, please don’t!

3. Realize – We’re still the same person underneath

Transgender people dealt with trans-issues since childhood. In fact, we’re usually aware of our transgenderism between the ages of five and seven years old. Although we might not fully address the issue until we’re older, it’s always been a big part of our personally and existence.

Thus, the person you knew before we started transition is exactly the same person you see today. We might outwardly look and act different. However, underneath it all? We’re still the same friend, brother, co-worker, husband or father you always knew.

One of the most challenging aspects of changing genders is the loneliness during our transition phase. Some people pull away due to varied degrees of prejudice. This is but one reason our attempted suicide rate is an astounding 41 percent compared with 1.6 percent for the general population – according to a study called the National Transgender Discrimination Survey.

What’s the most valuable gift you can offer a transgender friend? Open your heart to accepting her journey and open your eyes to the reality that the exact same friend you knew before? Is still there.

4. Don’t ask about our genital configuration

The first question on the tip of almost everyone’s tongue when they knowingly meet a transsexual woman – particularly if she’s quite passable and obviously evolved in her journey? Has she had the “final” surgery? This procedure – known as GRS: Gender Reassignment Surgery is very expensive and requires substantial recovery time from work to complete. Thus, lots of transsexual women haven’t yet completed this step. If you ask such a personal question about something she often can’t control? It can be a source of anguish.

Please don’t ask this question. It’s rude – like asking a breast cancer survivor if she still has her tits.Respecting a Transgender Woman

However, if you’re aware a transsexual woman recently completed GRS? It’s appreciated and appropriate to offer a congratulatory comment.

5. Be sympathetic to how challenging it is to successfully change a gender

Changing a gender is very challenging. The process to complete the physical changes is brutal and expensive. However, mastering the thousands of nuances that mark the difference between men and women requires years of constant study and practice.

Early on? We might wear too much make up, too much hair, or show too much leg or cleavage – too much is sometimes analogous with “dressing like a transsexual”.

If you think you can help us improve our feminine presentation through tips and advice? By all means volunteer that information. However, keep in mind that our new gender identity is younger than our chronological age. Thus, we might have teen girl-like sensitivity to perceived criticism. Please be diplomatic.

6. Don’t out us before we meet someone unless necessary

While an accidental “he” might cause others to surmise we’re transsexual, associates sometimes share those details just before we’re introduced to new people.

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Unless we’re new to transition and it’s painfully obvious we’re transgender – and thus you consider it important to share that fact and related etiquette with someone whose meeting us for the first time – please try not to tell everyone in advance. It creates an effect similar to if we unexpectedly rolled up in a wheel chair: it’s all someone sees when we first meet.

Ironically? The prettiest transsexual women often get pre-outed more often than us “Plain Janes” – as a veiled compliment. “You’re not going to believe she’s transgender” is a common but devastating way of telling others how much you admire her hard work and journey. Again, please try and let her first meet the person without prior disclosure.

7. Don’t out us in public settings

Aside from occasionally slipping and using the “he” pronoun, friends will sometimes “out” us in public settings because of the unique story associated with our friendship. I once had a dear girlfriend do this as we chatted with a couple seated next to us at a fine restaurant. The evolution of our association from my male self to my new female identity is a colorful story. However, in public? It’s not a good idea to share with strangers. You just never know when someone might react sternly to such trans-disclosure.

So please – try not to out us in public.

Thank you!

Telling Your Friends that you’re Transgender

In 2000, I shared Renee with one of my oldest and friends. For discretion purposes, I’ll call him Blane – as I doubt he wants his real name published all over the world wide web.

I’ve known Blane since I was six years old and our friendship has endured a myriad of challenges and triumphs. He’s a very bright and intuitive guy. I always knew he could handle knowing of Renee – but I waited a long time to share her with him. I’d already shared her with many others – including certain family members.
Why did I wait so long with Blane? Because his friendship means a great deal to me. Sharing your transgenderism with someone can change your relationship with that person. Sometimes, it will draw you closer. Other times, it can create a barrier to your communication and friendship. I wasn’t in a hurry to risk one of my closest associations on a whim.RenToday

Blane did pretty well with it. I watched him struggle initially with her – actually more than I first thought he might. I suppose we all are guilty of underestimating the impact this can have on people. In a couple of weeks, he seemed perfectly at rest with all of me – and even joined Renee for a night on the town with his lovely lady. While the matter was still fresh on his mind, I asked him to write down the feelings he had, the challenges he felt, and how he arrived at being okay with it all. I felt it might help us to better appreciate what we put our loved ones through when we ask them to accept our transgenderism.

Blane agreed to share his feelings – on one condition: that I publish his letter exactly as he wrote it. To quote him: If I misspell a word – it stays misspelled – you can’t change one word, one punctuation mark, nothing! I balked on this caveat for a couple of days. It’s not that I don’t trust him – he’s my best friend. It’s just that this little space on the Net is all mine. I wasn’t in a hurry to relinquish my role as its Writer, Publisher, Queen Mother, and Editor Supreme. *grin*

I eventually relinquished – but only because of the higher good I felt his words might provide. I have written this introduction before I’ve even read his letter – he still hasn’t finished it. If it’s bad – don’t blame me – I had no choice n the matter!!

Blane’s letter

I have started this article many times. I know that Renee has been frustrated at my tardiness. However, what started as an article on how to tell a friend or loved one (from the friends perspective) about being a T-Girl has become much more. This process has made me reevaluate my personal beliefs, reexamine how I treat others, and ultimately redefine how I love. Sounds like a lot? I think so too. But that is how much my relationship with Renee has meant to me and how much I value it in my future. First, I have to lay some groundwork. This site is dedicated to T-Girls and to introducing you to Renee. Many of you know much more about Renee than I do or ever will, so I would like to take some web space and tell you about “Mr. R”, Renee’s alter ego.

We met in the first grade and became instant friends. Even at that age, “Mr. R”’s leadership skills were evident. He was and is athletic, driven, determined, creative, brilliant, sensitive, caring, loving, obsessive, dynamic, and a visionary. He never feared taking a stance or going his own way, even if it was not popular or glamorous. In high school, he was president, captain of the football team, Most Likely to Succeed and a friend to everyone. Many people looked up to him, I know I did. “Mr. R” committed himself to accepting everyone where they were and making them feel good about it. Students from “the other side of the tracks” or the “in crowd” knew they had a true friend in “Mr. R”. I admired his accomplishments and his work ethic, but what I admired most was his women. Yes! “Mr. R” always dated beautiful women. You may wonder why I am going into so much detail. Because I want you to know that “Mr. R” was/is a man’s man and because I also know that his modesty would not let him say these things. He has continued to live up to the standard for success that he set for himself in high school. It also serves the purpose for helping you realize the absolute shock that I felt when he shared his secret life with me. I knew that he had to be setting me up for a practical joke! No way! Not “Mr. R”! A T-Girl?! No Way! I kept waiting for him to let me off the hook (A suppose a part of me still is!) but it did not happen. My entire image of him was changed. But not by him. His accomplishments were still the same. He was the same person that was my Best Man (he tried to talk me out of that marriage….turns out he was right!. Little did I know that it was woman’s intuition!) the same man that was in the hospital waiting room with me when my children were born, the same man that has loved me so well throughout my life. Then why was he now different? He wasn’t. What had made him different was my own set of filters. I made him different. That was hard for me to realize and harder for me to accept. I wanted to try to understand it all. I wanted to help him get “fixed”. Then I thought, “is he a man and woman trapped in the same body?” or “is it just an act, an outlet for stress” but I soon came to the realization that it does not matter to me. He is the same person and I want him in my life. I asked everything that I wanted to ask and Renee was totally honest with me and I needed that. I know that I can ask anything but I do not feel like I have to. In fact, there is a lot that I do not want to know.

This man has been a vital part of my life; it saddened me at the level of secrecy that he has endured throughout these many years. My initial reaction of shock and denial has been overcome to the point that I wish that he had told me earlier so that he would not have felt alone with it for so long. When you do come out, some men may feel threatened by wondering “is she attracted to me”? It is odd though, it has never occurred to me that Renee would be attracted to me. My girlfriend (a GG!) loves Renee and enjoys reading this website. One day she read the type of man that Renee is attracted toward. It alarmed her somewhat because I fit that description perfectly (except my penis is too large!). All of the sudden my best friend also had the potential in her eyes of becoming a threat. However, we have such a close relationship that his attraction to me would be much like him being attracted to his brother. I know in my heart that only friendship exists between us, no attraction. I think that this is an important consideration in determining in whom you confide. Now I want you to realize that I do not understand why he is attracted to this lifestyle and I do not necessarily agree with it but I do accept it for him. The reason that I accept it is because he is so comfortable with that part of him. If I had sensed doubt in his mind or confusion, I may have been aggressive in “reaching out” to him. However, it was very apparent that he did not require me to “save him”. “Mr. R” had completed a tremendous amount of soul searching before coming to his conclusions. Out of love for him, I had no choice but to respect his conclusions.

One important aspect of our relationship has always been humor. We are the Masters of the Insult to each other. We have been able to do that because of our self- confidence and our mutual respect. For example, in a nightclub if I were to say to “Mr. R”, “you dance like my grandmother!” we would both laugh because we both knew that it had no merit. I know he is a good dancer, he knows he is a good dancer, and we both are confident in that fact so no feelings are hurt. However, if I said the same thing to Renee, it takes on a whole new dimension. Gone is the confidence that I am not hurting my best friend and examples can be made in the other directions as well. Humor is vital to my relationship with “Mr. R”, and I am learning how to use it with Renee. Humor with Renee has been difficult at times because we are both learning our boundaries. Renee, understandably, is more sensitive and vulnerable than “Mr. R” and at the same time I am more sensitive because I am learning a new relationship. It is very important to me that humor be a part of Renee. In order to feel comfortable around Renee, I have to know that Renee is comfortable around me! Heed this warning though; humor problems are compounded when other people are involved. Just go slow, be careful what you say and whom you say it around. I believe that the same level of intimacy can be attained with a true friend, no matter what your persona if both of you desire that goal.

Renee’s response

I agreed to this letter being posted as is for one simple reason. As usual, my dear friend failed to consider all the implications to our agreement – namely – rebuttal rights. Sorry Blane, you’re f***ed. LOL

Seriously, I almost cried when I read his letter. Not really so much for what he said – but rather, what I knew I had put him through. Good friends are so very rare in this world. I ask all my sisters to consider the challenge your loved ones will feel as you change in front of their eyes and hearts – literally and figuratively. Helping them through it – is worth the frustration you’ll feel.

Blane, I’d like to formally thank you for your thoughts ((hugs)). Naturally, with all things considered, I simply can’t pass up the opportunity to make this next statement publicly:

“Honey, you dance like a faggot!” *Grin*

Sorry, but you walked right into that one smart ass!

Crossdresser Wig Selection and Care Tips

New to selecting and buying a wig? This section was crafted just for you! We’ll cover just about everything:

  1. How to select the ideal wig
  2. Where and how to buy hair most affordably
  3. How to care for your wigs

While I crafted this information with transgender women in mind, it will be helpful to any woman needing a wig or filler hair. I’ve helped tons of female friends new to wigs in finding a suitable solution.

Your needs and wants from your first few wig purchases are a lot different from they will be after years of experience with such hair.

Why’s that?

You don’t yet know what length, color and style will work best with your facial size, shape and skin tone.

Think that isn’t a big deal?

Why do you think there’s over 10,000 hair salons in the United States alone?
Women know…if you get the hair right? Everything else usually falls into place. If not? You’ll get a whole new appreciation for why a “bad hair day” is a common metaphor for “stand back, or I’ll kill you”. Great hair can cover almost every other shortcoming. When you combine a lovely head of hair with well-conceived make up? You’ll look lovely no matter what issues you face.
It’s that powerful.

Top 6 Makeup Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Your face is the first thing people notice about you. That means your makeup can make or break a feminine first impression.

Does your makeup application look more drag queen than beauty queen? Or have you mastered the art of subtle, beautiful makeup?

No matter what your skill level, there are a few key strategies that apply to everybody. Read on for my top 6 makeup tips for crossdressers and transgender women.

1. Invest in good makeup brushes

Quite simply, it’s impossible to apply masterful makeup without the right tools.

Forget about the tiny, cheap applicators that come packaged with most makeup. Upgrading to high quality brushes will give you much more control, immediately upgrading the look of your makeup.

Here are the basic brushes you should own:

  1. Foundation brush
  2. Concealer brush
  3. Powder brush
  4. Blush brush
  5. Flat eyeshadow brush
  6. Eyeshadow blending brush
  7. Lip brush

2. Use color correctors

If you have skin issues like a beard shadow, blemishes, or dark circles under your eyes, the solution is NOT to bury them under thick concealer. Your makeup will look much more natural if you start with a color corrector.

The idea behind color correctors is to use a complimentary tone to neutralize imperfections. This allows you to achieve beautiful skin with less makeup.

For example, you should use a pink or red corrector to neutralize a dark beard shadow – or a green corrector to neutralize redness.

3. Don’t ignore your eyebrows

A mistake I see many crossdressers and transgender women make is leaving the house with ungroomed eyebrows.

Since eyebrows create the frame for your face, they are literally one of the first things people notice about you. Why allow misshaped brows ruin an otherwise good makeup look?

If you can, get your eyebrows professionally shaped. A good esthetician can groom your eyebrows so they look good in both girl and guy mode (if need be).

4. Practice, practice, practice

Makeup is like any other skill – the more you practice, the better you get. And the better you get at doing your makeup, the prettier and more convincing you will look as a woman.


5. Book a lesson with a professional makeup artist

If you struggle with your makeup skills, one of the best investments you can make is a lesson with a professional makeup artist.

A good makeup artist will teach you proper makeup application techniques, help you find your best colors, and ensure that you are applying your makeup correctly. This is important because all the practice in the world won’t help if you are only reinforcing bad technique.

6. Take good care of your skin

Your skin is literally the canvas for your makeup.

Proper skin care can go a long way towards improving your skin’s texture and appearance. Not only will this make you look better, it’ll help your makeup go on smoother and last longer.

Here are 3 simple skin care tips to keep in mind:

  • Avoid using harsh soaps on your face. Use gentle facial cleansers only.
  • Apply facial moisturizer daily.
  • Use a face mask at least every other week. (This is a great ritual for pampering your inner woman!)

The Dos and Don’ts of Wearing a Bra (For Crossdressers and Transgender Women)

Being a girl comes with some pretty great perks… high heels, lipstick, lingerie – and bras in particular.

Bras offer endless options for expressing your femininity. And that’s where things get tricky! With so many sizes and styles available (and “rules” for bra wear and care), it’s easy to go wrong.

Do you know what to do and what NOT to do when it comes to bras? Read on for 6 dos and don’ts of wearing a bra!

1. DO wear the right size


Did you know that there’s an 80% chance you’re wearing the wrong size bra? A bra that doesn’t fit right is uncomfortable and unflattering. Who needs that?

Bra sizing is complicated, so it’s best to be professional fitted. (Most shops are happy to provide this service to their crossdressing and transgender clientele.)

2. DON’T let back bulge ruin your look


One of the dreaded side effects of wearing a bra is back bulge. This is especially common if you carry extra weight in your upper body. Here are 3 tips for beating back bulge:

  • Wear a larger band size. A band that’s too tight will cause bulging, so go up a size. For example, from a size 42 to a size 44 band.
  • Look for a bra with extra stretch. Bras made with smooth, stretchy fabrics don’t dig in as much as stiffer bras.
  • Try a longline bra. Longline bras have a wider band that extends down the torso to help eliminate back bulge.

3. DO choose the right style


While choosing right size bra is important, so too is the style. The options are nearly endless! Some of the style details to consider include:

  • Padded vs. unpadded
  • Underwire vs. wireless
  • Cut of the bra cups (low cut, full cut, balconette, etc.)
  • Front clasp vs. back clasp
  • Straps (strapless, racerback, convertible, etc.)
  • Fabric (cotton, satin, lace, etc.)
  • Color

Which style is best depends on what you’ll be wearing – as well as your natural breast shape and body type. For a breakdown of suitable styles.

4. DON’T be boring


While you should definitely own some basic bras, why stop there? Bras offer endless options for expressing your style, so have fun and experiment with different colors, fabrics, and trimmings! Just be sure these details don’t show through your clothes.

5. DON’T ruin your bra in the wash


Bras are delicate object, so they need to be properly cared for. You can’t simply toss your bra in the wash with the rest of your clothes! Here are some tips to ensure your bra stays in good shape for as long as possible:

  • Handwash your bra if possible. This is the best way to extend the life of your bra.
  • Use a bra wash bag. This keeps the hooks from snagging and prevents your bra from getting tangled in the washing machine.
  • Air dry your bra. Bras should never be put in the dryer, so hang them to dry instead.

6. DO replace your bra when it’s time


If you take care of your bra, it should last a good while. However, keep in mind that bras do have a limited life span. (An average of 6-12 months if you wear it regularly.) Here are signs your bra needs to be replaced:

  • The bra straps are stretched out.
  • The bra no longer fits properly. (Remember that your breast and chest size can fluctuate with hormones or weight loss/gain.)
  • The bra has lost its shape.
  • The bra feels uncomfortable.

Now that’s we’ve got the dos and don’ts worked out, the only thing left to do is enjoy your beautiful bra… And maybe go out buy some news ones!

Shoes, lipstick, and bras are 3 things I can’t get enough of!

What about you? How many bras do you own? Are you a basic one-bra kinda gal? Or do you have a bra to match your every mood?