Is Gender Dysphoria Keeping You Down? (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Gender Dysphoria is a condition of feeling one’s emotional and psychological identity as male or female to be opposite to one’s biological sex.

Clearly this condition can get stressful for anyone. When your body and mind are not connecting as one; it can really ruin a good mood. We understand this, and we would like to help.

We asked our Glamour Girls to explain to us some of the way they stay positive when feeling down about their dysphoria and we got some really good feedback. Here’s some great advice from an even greater community of individuals that know exactly what you are going through.

Put on an outfit you know you look good in.

“Wearing a pair of fabulous heels to feel super confident and sexy!”- Emily Couture

What’s a better way to make you feel better about yourself, than putting on an outfit that you know you look and feel awesome in? No matter how fancy or ridiculous the outfit is for lounging around the house- do it.

Cuddle your pet.

Pets are the perfect companions when you’re in an insecure mood, since they give unconditional love no matter what you look like or who you are. They don’t have one judgmental bone in their little tiny bodies. You can just cuddle and play with your pet until they inevitably put a smile on your face.

Treat yourself

“Retail therapy at G USA is a great diversion and puts me in a creative mood. Shopping most anywhere for coupons and deals focuses my attention away from my gender preference and gives me a positive outlook for my ‘Kim time’ to come”- Kim Rydick

“New lingerie always does it for me”- Daniel P

“A new pair of heels”- Samantha “Sami” Prescott

A typical response would be to “buy some ice cream”, but I don’t exactly believe in this tactic. Eating does not make me feel better- at all! It honestly does the opposite because then I feel even more insecure because I just ate a whole tub of Ben and Jerry’s… to myself… If I want to cheer myself up, I’ll go to Sephora, the salon, or to Bloomingdales. Leaving any of these places with a purchase, puts a smile on my face. So, go to your favorite place and buy yourself something that will make you happy. Treat yourself.

Set goals for yourself

This will keep you on track to finding happiness and peace in your life. When you are constantly pushing yourself, you will eventually become the woman you always wanted to be. Shying away from a difficult thing will keep you feeling down. The happier you will be the more goals you reach. Trust me.

Convert your frustrations into something positive

“I convert it into something positive and focus that positivity towards other who might need it as much, or more than me.”- Stephanie Anne Jeffries

Looking back at old photos and pondering past experiences will remind you about everything you have been through. It will hopefully get you to see that you can handle anything.

Get lost in some music

It’s awesome how music can affect your mood. Put on your favorite feel good music and dance around your house. Guarantee you forget all about the haters.

Surround yourself with friends that understand or might be going through the same thing

“I usually talk to supportive friends and family.”- Cassie Jo Smith

A great support group is a must have. You can’t take on the world alone- I mean you can- but that is no fun. Having other people to share bad experiences with, makes it a whole lot easier.

Start a journal or blog

If you don’t want to talk to anyone, let out your emotions in writing. Whether it be digitally or on paper. Letting it out somewhere usually helps relive the stressful emotions.

Exercise

“A cardio workout! Keeps my spirits high and healthy”- Nikki Cordova

For many people, getting lost in a good workout helps a lot. Your mind is free and you’re focused on the task at hand. Nothing can come in between that; giving you a stress free hour or so. It’s a win, win.

Take a long nap

This is my go to solution for a lot of things. Sleep is amazing and will obviously keep you relaxed. You will wake up feeling refreshed and maybe you will have a different outlook on your issues with a level head.

I hope any of you reading will try some of these tips when feeling down for any reason. These tips don’t just work for dealing with gender dysphoria but, mainly any situation. They are great tricks to incorporate into your life to insure you live a happy and fulfilling life.

 


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Alison alerted me to this "Etched Lace Men's Bra." The description for this men's brassiere reads, "We love the clean lines of this crisp monochromatic crop-top for men. Made from a medium-weight stretch fabric embossed with an etched lace design, this bra features a curved inset of lace at the bust for contouring. With a shaped athletic-styled back and pop-over styling for easy access. Etched Lace Men's Bra." So, who is selling this item of lingerie for lads? You would probably guess it was an online exotic lingerie store, but you would be wrong. It's ! Walmart also sells panties for men. What is this world coming to? 😉
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Etched Lace Men’s Bra

Alison alerted me to this "Etched Lace Men's Bra." The description for this men's brassiere reads, "We love the clean lines of this crisp monochromatic crop-top for men. Made from a medium-weight stretch fabric embossed with an etched lace design, this bra features a curved inset of lace at the bust for contouring. With a shaped athletic-styled back and pop-over styling for easy access. Etched Lace Men's Bra." So, who is selling this item of lingerie for lads? You would probably guess it was an online exotic lingerie store, but you would be wrong. It's ! Walmart also sells panties for men. What is this world coming to? 😉
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Wearing Boston Proper (Source: Boston Proper)
Daniel Furlong
Daniel Furlong, male womenswear model

How To Walk Like A Woman For Crossdressers (Male to Female Transgender Crossdressing Tips)

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Time to get that walk down ladies…walk with me….just like everything else in cross dressing your walk is going to take some practice to keep you from looking like a NFL Linebacker in stilettos. Good thing is practicing walking in heels is fun. The key is to not over do it like you are on the runway for Victoria’s Secret. Here are some tips to help you get the feminine walk down a little better.

Practice Walking In Your Heels

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Practice makes perfect right? So spend your entire day in heels ( If your feet can bare it). Do your daily household chores in your heels. One thing I love to do is dance in mine. If you can dance…you can walk, both take a bit of getting used to, and a little wine does not hurt to loosen you up.

 Relax…

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Speaking of loosening up, you need to be relaxed, and not so stiff. Feminine movements will come a lot easier to you if you are not so tensed up. The stretches in THIS post and some of the stretches HERE are great for releasing tension in your body. Yoga is great for this too.

3. Head Up
Keep your head up high and look straight ahead

4. Keep Your Back Straight

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Don’t be a slouch, keep good posture arch your back a bit but do not over do it either

5. Keep Your Elbows At Your Sides.
Do not swing your arms, Keep your elbows tucked in around your waist

6. Hips don’t lie

This step is very important NOT to over do. Sway your hips slightly with each step.

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7. Smaller Steps
Keep in mind to take smaller steps. Step straight ahead.

8. Film Yourself Walking
I wish I could find my old VHS tape with me prancing around in 7 inch stripper heels, a mini skirt and my mothers wig on…actually…no I don’t…but this is a great way to study what you are doing right, and what you are doing wrong.

9. Confidence
Own it T-girl…you need to have confidence ( I can be your cheerleader)

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10. Observe
Without being creepy, observe the way  transgender women walk. Head to the mall or the beach and study women’s movements

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Corsets for Men A Crossdresser’s Guide to Cinching (Male to Female Transgender Crossdressing Tips).

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Waist cinching first began in the Victorian era when a tiny waist was the epitome of fashion for high-born ladies, but today’s crossdresser can make use of this practice to enhance femininity and look more attractive than ever. Like the noble ladies of our past, modern men who practice crossdressing have come to embrace the indispensible art of cinching for the way it makes them look and the way it makes them feel. Corsets for men, foundation undergarments and other cinching apparel effectively turn a male waistline into a shapely, feminine-looking form. Some people use corsets or cinching only when they want to look womanly for a night on the town, but many others use these techniques to reshape and maintain girlish waistlines for a lifetime.

Corsets and Cinching

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Even beginners to crossdressing recognize the value of waist shaping, but many don’t know where to start when it comes to cinching. The first step is learning exactly how and why corsets and cinching benefit the transgender or crossdresser. Cinchers work most effectively when the wearer laces the garment tight to pull in the waist and redistribute the surrounding flesh to the breast and hip areas. Using corsets for men in this manner results in a sexy, voluptuous and ultra-feminine appearance that will turn many heads. Until they become used to the sensation of cinching, newcomers should avoid over-lacing as the practice may cause discomfort when moving and breathing.

Choosing a Cincher

The world of corsets and cinchers is a vast place filled with a plethora of tantalizing garments. Just like other challenges a crossdresser or transgender must face, trial and error will be your best friend. Having said that, it’s important to note that most ladies corsets found in department stores probably won’t meet your needs, but have no fear, there are many options available including selections like these:

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  • Ultimate Satin Waist Cinching Corset | Heavy steel boning keeps the waist tiny while enhancing the curves in the hip and breast area.
  • Edwardian Lace-Back Corset | Fully boned for precise control, this stunning corset features an easy front closure and makes a sexy undergarment.
  • Butt Booster Body Shaper | This shaper features foam padding for the butt and firm control for the mid-section.

Bottom Line

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Regardless of why you’re considering corsets for men, you owe it to yourself to make an informed decision. With research and a little bit of time, you’ll find a cincher that meets all of your requirements, including comfort, allure, and beauty.


How to Choose Breast Forms (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

crossdress With the different kinds of breast enhancement for on the market it can be a complex decision when you set out to choose crossdresser breast forms.
There are so many considerations:
  • Size
  • Style
  • Material
  • Lifestyle
  • Budget
We have covered in previous articles the different materials breast forms can be made from, including home-made breast forms. We have also covered the subject of what size breast forms you should get and how you size yourself for breast forms and bras. crossdress Having read our other articles you now just need to make sure you choose the right breast forms to help maximize your male to female transformation. If you are conveniently located to a crossdresser store like Glamour Boutique in New Jersey then call and book an appointment to meet with a fitter experienced in working with crossdressers and transgender clients. If, like many girls you need to shop conveniently and discreetly online then make sure you use a reputable store with a clear returns policy. Having done your home-work you know what your budget is and you have correctly calculated your bra and breast form size. Make sure at the same time to consider your lifestyle. Are you an occasional crossdresser who dresses in doors and just wants a quick solution to give a more female shape? Are you someone soon to embark on transitioning and so are looking for the most realistic enhancement you can afford? Do you need forms for swimming or sleeping in? All of these will determine your choice of breast form. crossdress Let’s say you want a good quality pair of realistic looking and feeling breast forms that you intend to wear most days and for going out and that although you will start off wearing in a bra you would like the option of wearing topless with adhesive. Already you are looking at least a mid-range pair of breast forms that not only have a much better appearance, weight and touch of the cheap, heavy breast forms, but that also have re-enforced backs to be able to withstand breast form adhesive. Over time you may also want to sleep with your breast forms on. Again, make sure you consider sleep-friendly breast forms. Many silicone forms are not intended to be worn during sleep since any body-weight brought to bear consistently over time on a silicone breast form can in time weaken the seal and lead to a rupture. Many girls use silicone breast forms for day wear and then switch over to sleep-safe foam breast forms for night time. sissy DID I CHOOSE THE RIGHT BREAST FORMS? When trying on breast forms for the first time, whether in a retail showroom or after receiving your online purchase make sure you have a form-fitting top to hand. The true feminine effect of the shape of enhancement is seen properly under clothing. First-fitting steps:
  1. Attach bra in place
  2. Loosen shoulder straps
  3. One at a time, insert forms into each cup of the bra
  4. Tighten shoulder straps to required firmness to hold forms in place but not squeeze them
  5. Pull on a form-fitting top and inspect the shape in the mirror
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If you have chosen the correct breast form style and size then they should sit snugly at the bottom of the cup of the bra. With correct shoulder strap adjustment, the top of the form whilst still enclosed in the bra cup, should blend into the chest wall and not pull away from the chest. With a form-fitting top on you are looking for smooth, realistic curves to the shape and slight movement of the ‘bust’ as you move. The breast forms should make you look and feel feminine and for most there is an element of excitement when you slip them on for the first time and you have made the right choice. Choosing breast forms is similar to choosing a favorite pair of shoes or a bra; it can take a little time to find the right one, but as soon as you make the right choice everything just feels like it should. crossdress In conclusion, take your time to research to make sure you make the right choice the first time. If you can get to a crossdresser store to be fitted in-person then great. If not make sure you use a trusted TG/CD business who understand your needs and who have live customer service so you can talk to a person on the phone to walk you through the process without feeling rushed.
 

Which Panty is Right For You (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

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Dear Readers,

I’m excited to present a new voice on Crossdresser Heaven. Tabitha has kindly shared her insights on a subject near and dear to most of us.

One Crossdressers Perspective on Choosing the Perfect Panty

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Whether you are transgender, a crossdresser, or simply have a fetish for wanting/needing to wear woman’s panties, you will want to choose the style that is the most comfortable for you to wear, as well as present you in the most attractive light should you choose to show someone what you are wearing under your outer clothes! Many lingerie experts will tell you that there are five basic panty styles: bikini, hipster, boyshort, modern brief, and high leg (or high cut) brief. Below is a brief (pun intended) description of each style, and my (perhaps) irreverent thoughts.

Bikini crossdressing

Bikini style panties are just like the bikini swimwear that you can see at any beach, and on nearly every episode of the old television shows of Baywatch, Hawaii Five-0, etc. Perhaps a mere 1% of all women in the world look really attractive in a bikini panty; and most of those are under the age of 30. For the transgender or crossdresser, unless you have a hormonally enhanced body, it is going to be difficult to attain an attractive look with a bikini panty. Since a bikini panty contains such a small amount of material, your first concern will probably be how to hide or even cover up your male anatomy. Second, if you have even a small amount of tummy fat, your tummy will naturally try to drop over the top of the panty because a bikini panty is meant to be worn low, (similar to low-rise jeans), or below the natural waistline. So, for the 99% of the world’s population, (which definitely includes me), this panty style is probably not for you.

Hipster crossdressing

Hipster style panties are similar to bikini panties, but do provide a bit more coverage. Hipsters are also meant to be worn low, but will provide a bit more coverage for your male anatomy. Low rise style seems to be all the rage these days, so this is a good panty choice if you are going to be wearing low-rise outer clothing such as low-rise jeans and shorts. However, those with even a small bit of extra tummy fat will face the same dilemma of a small portion of the tummy wanting to naturally migrate and rest in a place just slightly over the top of the panty. So, for this reason alone, I cannot recommend this style of panty for most of us.

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Boyshort panties are aptly named, because they can appear and feel as if you are wearing a pair of shorts, (which means that you probably can’t wear these panties if your outerwear is going to consist of short shorts). Boyshorts offer the greatest coverage for your male anatomy and your legs, and for this reason, are sometimes derisively labeled as ‘granny panties” and/or “vintage panties.” Those who utilize these negative labels often overlook the fact that these panties can be very comfortable as the panty top is meant to sit on the natural waistline. Furthermore, they can contour to a wide variety of body styles providing an overall slimming and smooth look. Finally, if you want to shed the “granny panty” look of a boring white panty, know that today’s lingerie designers offer the boyshort in a number of different patterns and bold, vibrant colors. Boyshorts  are not my favorite style of panty, but I do occasionally wear them when I am not wearing outer short shorts.

Modern crossdressing

A modern panty is basically a good compromise between a boyshort and a high leg/high cut panty. It contains a little bit less material than a boyshort, (but still enough for full and comfortable coverage of the male anatomy), while still offering a sexy display of your panty and legs due to its slightly diminished curving side, high cut fit. A modern panty will not likely be mistaken for a granny panty, even though it too sits at the natural waistline, because of its side cut and fit. Modern panties are my second recommended choice to wear on a daily basis.

High Leg/High Cut crossdressing

High leg/high cut panties offer the best of all worlds in my humble opinion. They offer more than adequate coverage for the male anatomy, while also offering a sexy and attractive high cut, side leg view, (hence the panty’s name). However, beware that not every store sales associate is familiar with the high leg style, (or else they are aware, but have been told to push some other panty style onto the unsuspecting customers). I have occasionally had sales associates steer me to the bikini and/or boyshort panties when I requested the location of the high leg panties; and one sales associate even told me that what I really meant was that I was searching for a boyshort panty)! I was a bit aggravated at basically being told that I, as the customer, was wrong; but I have since learned that a lot of sales associates working in lingerie stores/lingerie sections in department stores, have less knowledge of lingerie than me. So, I give my highest recommendation of this panty style to all; as I believe that you will feel comfortable wearing it all day under your outer clothes, and that you will be tempted at the end of the workday to rip off your outer clothes to display your sexy panty and legs to all the world!

In conclusion, it is important to remember that the above recommendations reflect my particular preferences and experiences. So, if you want to wear bikini panties, and feel good doing so, then by all means you should wear bikini panties. Also, my recommendations are largely based on every day and the all-day wearing of panties. While I don’t wear bikini panties daily to work, I have certainly been known to don a pair for a night out at the bar, or while being a “naughty” bedroom partner! So, please consider my comments in this article, but find out for yourself what works for you by not being afraid to try wearing a variety of styles until you find what style makes you feel the prettiest and most feminine!


5 Tips for Parents of Transgender Children (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

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5 Tips for Parents of Transgender Children

Raising children is certainly one of life"s most rewarding experiences yet simultaneously presents some of our greatest challenges. As information about transgender children continues to spread, more and more parents of are quickly moving through any personal fears to fully support their trans child. It"s important to understand that the sooner you help your trans child transition from their assigned gender to their true gender identity, the happier they"re likely to be throughout their entire life. crossdressing

Tips For Parents Raising a Transgender Child

Never stop showing your child unconditional love! Regardless of what your wishes for your child were or are, children are their own people and are here to live their own lives, not to please us as parents. Teach your child that you will love them no matter what and that you will do anything you can to support their needs.   crossdressing Consider visiting a gender specialist at an early age if your child insists that he or she feels like the gender opposite the one they were assigned at birth; or if your child is indeed determined to be transgender, you can help your child make a "social transition" into their gender identity. crossdresser
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Once you are aware that you are raising a transgender child, you can help them learn methods of developing healthy self-esteem. You may wish to work with a transgender friendly family therapist to help all members adjust to the changes; in many cases, it"s actually the parents that need more help adjusting than the trans child, particularly if the child was allowed to make a social transition at an early age.   crossdressing Puberty blockers and cross sex hormones may help your preteen and teenage trans child adjust to their growing body. Many transgender children are fearful about what will happen to their bodies once they reach puberty, but puberty blocking medications offer another option by delaying the onset of puberty with no long-term side effects. Cross sex hormones, taken during the teenage years, may have permanent physical effects, but in most cases, these effects will be desirable to your trans child and will help them adjust over the long-term. Plenty of support exists for parents of transgender children. As more and more transgender people "go public" and more parents openly support their trans children from a very young age, the number of online and local support groups keeps steadily increasing.   crossdressing

Greater Equality is Leading to Wider Acceptance

Parents no longer need to feel ashamed of their transgender children thanks to the strong parents and transgender people who have come before to pave the way for more equality in society. By honoring our children for who they are, we can offer them the unconditional love and support they most need to grow into the truest versions of themselves. crossdresser

5 Tips for Parents of Transgender Children (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

 crossdress

5 Tips for Parents of Transgender Children

Raising children is certainly one of life"s most rewarding experiences yet simultaneously presents some of our greatest challenges. As information about transgender children continues to spread, more and more parents of are quickly moving through any personal fears to fully support their trans child. It"s important to understand that the sooner you help your trans child transition from their assigned gender to their true gender identity, the happier they"re likely to be throughout their entire life. crossdressing

Tips For Parents Raising a Transgender Child

Never stop showing your child unconditional love! Regardless of what your wishes for your child were or are, children are their own people and are here to live their own lives, not to please us as parents. Teach your child that you will love them no matter what and that you will do anything you can to support their needs.   crossdressing Consider visiting a gender specialist at an early age if your child insists that he or she feels like the gender opposite the one they were assigned at birth; or if your child is indeed determined to be transgender, you can help your child make a "social transition" into their gender identity. crossdresser
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Once you are aware that you are raising a transgender child, you can help them learn methods of developing healthy self-esteem. You may wish to work with a transgender friendly family therapist to help all members adjust to the changes; in many cases, it"s actually the parents that need more help adjusting than the trans child, particularly if the child was allowed to make a social transition at an early age.   crossdressing Puberty blockers and cross sex hormones may help your preteen and teenage trans child adjust to their growing body. Many transgender children are fearful about what will happen to their bodies once they reach puberty, but puberty blocking medications offer another option by delaying the onset of puberty with no long-term side effects. Cross sex hormones, taken during the teenage years, may have permanent physical effects, but in most cases, these effects will be desirable to your trans child and will help them adjust over the long-term. Plenty of support exists for parents of transgender children. As more and more transgender people "go public" and more parents openly support their trans children from a very young age, the number of online and local support groups keeps steadily increasing.   crossdressing

Greater Equality is Leading to Wider Acceptance

Parents no longer need to feel ashamed of their transgender children thanks to the strong parents and transgender people who have come before to pave the way for more equality in society. By honoring our children for who they are, we can offer them the unconditional love and support they most need to grow into the truest versions of themselves. crossdresser

10 Ways to Love a Transgender Person (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

sissy The landscape of dating and developing loving relationships can be a tough area to navigate for someone who is transgender. Not only do they have to deal with all the normal relationship issues that cis people deal with, but they also have to deal with any transgender issues they carry into the relationship. It can be a tough situation for both the transgender and cis participant. Here are a few tips that will hopefully make the transition from single to dating a transgender person a little easier for both of you. 10-Be Prepared for Family Woes – When you tell your family that your new significant other is transgender there will most likely be some pushback.  As much as people are trying to be understanding towards transgender people, there is still a lot of uneasiness towards us and that can be heightened when we are dating one of their family.  It is very important that you stick up for your new partner as the pain resulting from not defending them to your family can seriously damage the relationship. 9-The friends shake-up – Most of your friends should be okay with your choices though you may run into a friend or two that do not respect your choice.  They may decide to remain friends but will only see you without your new partner.  There will be some that may even decide to terminate their contacts with you.  Honestly, those are probably not the kind of friends you need in your life and if you approach their departure in that way it will not make you resent your new love. sissy 8-The Best of Both Worlds – Entering into a relationship with a transgender person is really not getting the best of both worlds.  The transgender person has always been the same gender even when they presented differently.  There absolutely is an exception to this tip with gender fluid transgender people. 7-The Changing Landscape – The transgender partner will always be in a state of transition to some degree depending on how far along they are.  If you, for example, begin to date a transgender woman early in transition there will be major changes and you need to be prepared for how that affects the relationship. In some cases these changes will also affect how you are intimate with each other. sissy 6-Pronoun Minefields – You need to be very careful with pronouns because as a lover, an incorrect pronoun will stab at your partner’s heart more than anyone else using the incorrect pronoun.  You have a backstage pass to their feelings; use it wisely. 5-Their Junk and Junk Intentions – Before cementing the relationship, you do need to be aware of what they have between their legs and you need to be okay with it.  You also need to know what they plan to do with their unmentionables.  Whether they are getting surgery or planning to keep what they have, could play a factor later on in the relationship.  If you really like a lady with a member, you may not want to date one who plans to have it inverted into a lady part. sissy
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4-The No Go Zone – Some transgender people will be very sensitive to you touching some areas.  For example, a transgender woman who has not had her facial hair removed might be very apprehensive of you touching her face if she has stubble.  Similarly, a trans male may not like you touching his chest.  These are triggers for uneasy gender dysphoria feelings. 3-The Old Name – Do not insist on knowing their old pre-transition name.  Some of us do not reveal it as it comes with a lot of stigma from our pasts.  Others may be more forthcoming,  Personally, I do not share it because I fear it can be used as an emotional weapon against me in a fight. sissy 2-To Use it or Not to Use it – Some transgender people will absolutely not use their old equipment when lovemaking and you need to understand any boundaries that exist in your partner as you don’t want to find out in the middle of some intense passion.  Others, are fine with using their equipment so it is worthwhile asking about it before you initiate the lovemaking stage in the relationship. 1-Take it Slow – For many transgender people a relationship may be awkward at first as they work out their place in it and figure it all out on the fly.  This is especially true of transgender people early into transition.  The best advice is to take it slow and communicate a lot to ensure you are both ready for each step you take.  The beautiful part is that the relationship can become very rewarding and is worth all the extras you put in to make it work.