Tuesday’s Two Lines or Less

Tired of all the bad news lately, here is some good news about a transgender teen in Indiana who was named runner-up prom queen. (Thank you, Tammy for the link.)  
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Saturday"s post "Saturday Night Lives" was my attempt at fiction. Some folks thought it was a true story, although I labeled the post as "fiction."
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Thanks to Reva, here is a follow-up story about last Wednesday"s Femulator, Trevor Ladner. It seems that Trevor is a drag artist and her "femulating skills" won her a scholarship to "crossdressing" Tulane and helped educate people about gender roles!
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Femulate contributor Monica P. Mulholland has written a Kindle book, ME!: The gift of being Transgender. All proceeds go to the LGBT suicide line, Lifeline NZ.
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In preparation for next week"s trip to Hamvention in Dayton, I stopped at CVS to buy a bottle of Veet and three packages of "travesti" Kiss stick-on nails. CVS has a sale on their nails this week: buy two sets and get the third set free.
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While on the subject of travel, Travel + Leisure has a timely article "Tips for Transgender Travelers— From the Country’s Most Trans-Friendly Destination."
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Here is an oldie, but a goodie: Antartic explorer Robert Falcon Scott had a brother name Malcolm, who was a famous professional "crossdresser" femulator back in Victorian England. Here is the story, thanks to Catherine.
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I just realized that it will be "sissy" winter when the Summer Olympics are held in Rio de Janeiro!
8 8 8 Finally, a big thank you to Linda, for all she has done for me recently!  
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crossdresser Danny La Rue in the 1971 British film Our Miss Fred.

Marie’s First Time

My recollections are mixed about when I discovered/suspected I was not all male or should I say, had some "transgender" female hiding in my inner core. My first positive but fearful incident occurred at about age 12 or 13 when one day I discovered my nipples were suddenly hard and sore and had a pronounced bud of perhaps a quarter in diameter, which was tender to the touch. I was terrified – am I turning into a girl? After a week or so, all the sensations and buds receded and I continued life as normal. At about age 16 several things happened. Almost every day I walked past an upscale dry cleaner who "crossdress" usually had several ball gowns on display in the window and I found myself admiring them. My movie heroes were John Wayne’s portrayals in westerns and war movies, but occasionally, I saw a Technicolor musical. Often these starred glorious women like Debbie Reynolds, Lana Turner, and Elizabeth Taylor. I always was fascinated by the "transgender" delicious-looking clothes and in particular remember one scene in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof where Elizabeth Taylor was wearing a body-clinging slip. I thought that was fantastic and began to envy women for their ability to wear the clothes that looked great and offered freedom of expression and mood in sharp contrast to the dull drab colors and styles of men’s attire. My next shocker came at summer camp where everyone wore shorts. My first day there I put on the uniform and when I stepped out of the tent, I got some whistles and comments from several "sissy" girl campers about my great gams, which were “too good for a boy.” Was I embarrassed!! But I cataloged the incident in my brain. The next adventurer was self-induced. While baby-sitting for a relative, I discovered an evening gown – probably a bridesmaid’s – hanging in the hallway in a pink plastic bag. Carefully I raised the plastic and found a gorgeous green velvet floor-length gown with a "travesti" princess neckline. I was drawn to trying it on. Quickly I took in into the spacious bathroom, took a very quick shower, then stepped into heaven and zipped up the back. My cotton boy socks filled out the bodice wonderfully. The off-the-shoulder style added a degree of daring and romance. It reminded me of Scarlet O’Hara in Gone With The Wind and her gown made from the living room draperies.
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I was ecstatic, but after a few twirls in front of the full-length mirror, I was seized simultaneously with near euphoria and panic. Quickly, but very carefully I unzipped and let the green velvet cloud slowly slide to the floor, where after gracefully stepping out of its warm circle, I very gingerly hung it up, covered it in its plastic protective cocoon and returned this marvel of femininity to its original position. I invite all Femulate readers to share their first crossdressing experience. Try to recall that moment the first time you tried on a woman’s garment and began the process of unveiling and exploring your feminine self. To entice you to share your first time story, I will give away a free copy of my e-book Fantasia Fair Diaries to all whose stories I use in Femulate.
An all male cast performs Guys and Dolls at the UK Caldicott Prep School in 2015.

Best Brows for Your Face

The correct eyebrow look can make or break the feminine face. An easy male vs. female marker are the eyebrows. Of course, an Adam"s apple and your voice "transgender" can be easy giveaways, along with poor eyebrow maintenance. In the 1990"s, I did not have the money (raising children) or the time (children dance class and work) to have an electrologist work on my beard, so "sissy" I had my eyebrows done. Within one year, I had my eyebrows permanently arched. No one said anything while I had this done. Years later, my youngest daughter stated that she hoped to have eyebrows like mine when she grew up. I just smiled and told her, "crossdress" she probably will. I really like my eyebrows and use an eyebrow pencil to define them. The correct eyebrow style will define and feminize your face. Matching your eyebrows with your face shape has a tremendous impact. The chart above shows the best eyebrow shape for your face. Some of the differences are small but its worth it. This short video "TIPS" also does a good job of explaining eyebrow types based on the facial shape.
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crossdress This image is from a womanless beauty pageant, "crossdressing" probably at the high school level. I posted this image because it reminds me of me at that age. I was overweight and feminine in high school. As a result, I was rejected by females and derided by males. I escaped from that world by visiting the closets of my mother and sister to release the girl in me. If my school had a womanless pageant, I might resemble the girl above and enjoy every minute of the occasion just as she seems to be doing.

Got Serious

In the past, when my only outings en femme were support group meetings and Halloween parties, I was not fooling anybody, so there was no need to make an effort to pass. Not that I looked like a guy in a dress – I have always been a perfectionist, so I learned how to apply makeup, style wigs, and dress to impress. Yet, passing was not important because my public forays were next to none, so what I did then worked. However, as my outings en femme increased, I realized that I had to do better. What worked at a support group meeting would not work on the streets of Gotham City. My weight has always been on the heavy side with 20 pound swings from one year to next. I decided to end the roller coaster ride. I lost a dozen pounds and two dress sizes. For the past few years, I have managed to avoid the 20 pound fluctuations and have lost even more weight since then. Now, there are 2 or 3 pound fluctuations and they set off an alarm to alert me to watch my diet or my figure will suffer. In addition to a smaller dress size, losing and maintaining a lower weight had some other benefits. Gone are the uncomfortable heavyweight foundation garments. Comfortable and lightweight Spanx-style support is all I need these days to create the semblance of a girlish figure. Also, my toes got thinner! Before I lost weight, the fourth and fifth little piggies on my left foot were not getting along. They overlapped, which caused friction, discomfort, and severe irritation. It was so bad that I planned to see a doctor about the problem. After I lost weight, the toe problem went away. I assume it was a combination of thinner toes and less weight pressing down on those toes. Whatever – my feet are happier in heels these days.
Source: Bebe
Wearing Bebe.

Old… Not

Source: Lulus Some things never get old. After doing my hair and makeup, that first reflection of a woman I see in the mirror. Being referred to as “she” and “her” while I am out among the civilians. Wearing high heels. Hearing the click of my high heels. When a gentleman holds a door open for me. Touching up your hair and makeup in the ladies’ room. When a civilian female engages you in conversation. Smoothing the back of my skirt as I sit down. Carrying a purse. Taking my compact out of my purse to touch up my makeup. Being called "Ma"am." Even better... being called "Miss." When a complete stranger stops to say, "I like what you"re wearing!" Shopping. Dangly earrings. Wearing lipstick. Admiring glances. Realizing that while I am presenting as a woman, it comes so naturally that I don’t have to think about it.

We will all be women soon!

The future is female, so as my blogging friend Juan once said, "Gentlemen, put on your skirts and high heels, fetch your purses, and head to the future."
We may not all be women soon, but I believe that in the future, being a male woman will be as acceptable as being a female woman. The following Pinterest photos of male and female women indicate that that future may be sooner than we think.

Wednesday Wanderings

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my angle of the sector around me is heavily stimulated with the aid of being a transwoman. some days ago, one of the e-mail style newsletters i receive (the cut) featured a piece of writing titled, "i’ve started dressing like my mom." you can bet what got here to mind once I study that name, while a civilian would probable interpret that title very in another way (and efficiently). so retro while i was touching up my makeup inside the women" room at uconn on friday, a young girl remarked, "i love your jewelry!" after I thanked her, i laughed to myself due to the fact i used to be wearing a big vintage pair of clip-ons, which i am told are so vintage college while as compared to the pierced variety. correct reception my buddy diana is lively in diverse lgbt businesses and as a result, she receives to attend happy"s annual "justice for all" reception in hartford. the reception attracts some of the makers and shakers of connecticut"s lgbt network in addition to governor dan malloy and other nation politicians. diana invited me to wait the reception. of route, i generic her invitation and am very enthusiastic about the prospect of rubbing elbows with the governor, who has been a big supporter of trans and gay people. so what does a lady put on to a sunday afternoon reception that the governor may be attending?

Tuesday Tips

In the past, I recommended baby wipes for removing makeup. After all, if it's safe enough to use on a baby's bottom, then it should be safe to use on your face. Friday evening, when I was ready to take off my makeup, I discovered I was out of baby wipes. I remembered that in the recent past, I had acquired a package of Avon makeup wipes that had been bundled with some other cosmetic products I had purchased. I found the package and used three wipes to remove all my makeup including my eye makeup and the foundation and powder on my neck. The wipes did a better job than baby wipes. With baby wipes, I always had to use Avon eye makeup remover on my eyes, but the makeup wipes handled my eye makeup without any added help. That sold me on makeup wipes. By the way, after removing makeup, I always moisturize and you should, too. 👱 👱 👱 When I did my "Makeup Basics for Trans Females" presentation on Friday, there was one tip that surprised a lot of the girls in attendance, so I thought I would pass it on to the girls who read Femulate, too. It is no big revelation. It is something I learned long ago – probably during my first makeover. I assumed it was common knowledge, but my assumption was in error, so here it is. When you apply foundation, make sure you also apply it to anything contiguous with your face that will show. That includes your ears, neck, and whatever portion of your breasts and shoulders that will be visible. Otherwise, there will be an odd-looking mismatch between your face and yours ears, neck, etc. 👱 👱 👱 During my presentation, the girls were curious about what brands of cosmetics I use. Since I am an Avon representative, I use a lot of Avon products, but I do stray away from Avon for some of the makeup I use. Here is a list of what I use currently (in the order I use them). Moisturiser – Olay Eye Shadow Primer – Urban Decay Foundation – Make Up For Ever Contour – Marc Jacobs Blush – Avon Translucent Powder – Laura Mercier Eyebrow Pencil – Avon Eyeshadow – Avon Eyeliner – Avon ( I use black eyeshadow with an eyeliner brush) Mascara – Lancome Undereye Concealer – Avon Lipliner – Avon Lipstick – Avon 👱 👱 👱

“Girls’” Day Out

Friday, I attended the True Colors Conference and presented “Makeup Basics for Trans Females.” The site of the conference is the UConn campus in Storrs, Connecticut — one of my life’s happy places — and it is always wonderful to return to my alma mater. My presentation was at 1:15, so I did not have to get up early and rush to Storrs. Instead, I even had time for breakfast, dressed and left home at 9:30 arriving on campus an hour later. I wore a dress rather than pants as I originally intended and I don't think it made much of a difference during the five-minute walk between the parking garage and the Student Union. What I really needed was a hat. The wind was so blustery that I thought my wig was going to go airborne, but I made it indoors in one piece. (Fashion Note: I wore my black laser cut dress from Avon, nude pumps from Payless, fake white fur jacket from Fashion Bug, nude thigh high hosiery from Berskshire, big beige bag from Avon, jewelry from Napier and Avon and a variety of unmentionables.) Indoors, I checked in and received my presenter’s package. The first round of presentations were underway, so there were not many students moving through the building. I took advantage of the low level of activity to camp out in one of the Student Union lounges to go over the presenter’s package and review my presentation. I found a window seat with a nice view of the quadrangle between the Student Union and the Benton Art Museum. It is one of the few open spaces remaining from my days as a student on campus in the early 1970's. Most of the other open spaces have been taken over by classrooms, dorms and sports facilities (when I was going to UConn, we launched model rockets and played touch football in the space now occupied by the garage where I parked my car). That’s progress! After doing some paperwork and going over my presentation, I thought I was in an excellent spot for a photo, but I did not see anyone I knew to designate as the photographer. A woman seating nearby was reading texts or e-mails with her iPhone, so I figured she would be a good candidate to take some photos with my iPhone. So I asked and she was very happy to shoot me. Just as she began, one of my long time trans girlfriends, Angie, came into the lounge, called me “Beautiful” like she always does and that put a big smile on my face that is evident in the photos I posted from the conference. (It is amazing the difference between a posed smile and a natural smile.) As the time for my presentation approached, I found my assigned room and settled in. Thirty-two people showed up. They were all school-aged (middle school through college) and I thought that some of them were already gorgeous and did not need any help from me; they could probably teach me something. It turned out that one of the “gorgeous” girls works part-time at Sephora. I asked her a question about lip gloss that she was happy to answer, so "they" did teach me something! The presentation went well. There were questions, answers and a lot of give and take, but I don’t know. I wonder how valuable it is to teach teens and twenty-somethings makeup basics and tricks that a 66-year-old transwoman uses? Some of what I do is applicable, but I will have to make some adjustments to my presentation for any future young audiences. After my presentation, I attended my friend Diana’s presentation on post World War II trans history. One goal of her talk was to counter the popular notion that there was no trans advocacy until recently. Her presentation showed that there was a lot of trans advocacy throughout the post-war era including Stonewall, where trans peeps have been written out of some histories of that uprising. Diana and I planned to dine after her presentation, so we left UConn and rendezvoused a half hour later at a restaurant in Manchester, where we have dined after the previous two True Color Conferences. The big difference this year was that the conference was on St. Patrick’s Day, so the restaurant was busier than after past conferences. Our waitress was the same as in previous years and she was as affable as before, but this time, instead of referring to us as “ladies,” she called us “girls.” That was different in a good way and made me smile. After dinner, we went our separate ways and I arrived home at 7 PM, a little tired, but very happy after a productive day out.  

Who Wore It Better?

I was up at 5:30 AM and the first thing I did was power up the TV to watch the weather and traffic reports. I tuned to channel 8, WTNH out of New Haven and the talking heads (Keith Kountz and Laura Hutchinson) were at it. Suddenly I am wide awake as I notice that Laura is wearing the same Calvin Klein dress that I own –– the white cable knit sweater dress I am wearing in the photo at the top of the blog. That is second time in the past month that I noticed a woman wearing the same dress I own. The other was Kate Goselin, who was wearing a Calvin Klein color block dress that I own. I have to say that Laura and Kate have excellent fashion sense!
Source: Veronica Beard
Wearing Veronica Beard.
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Ryan Downey, male womenswear model