Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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Just finishing two weeks" vacation. It was wonderful taking two weeks off back-to-back. I have not done that in a long time, but with so much vacation time on my hands, I figured, "Why not!" I mostly hung around town. I did some home repairs that I have put off doing for years. Otherwise, I did not do much. I didn"t even do much blogging, as you may have noticed. t was very relaxing. My wife had a birthday during my vacation, so I took her shopping. We went to my favorite store, Dress Barn, and I bought her whatever she wanted. It was the Dress Barn nearest my home, not the store near work where I am a frequent shopper in girl and boy mode. So I was not familiar with the sales staff, nor they with me. Although I was in boy mode, I perused the racks "looking for stuff for my wife to try on." It was a perfect cover! I saw a few items for my girl mode, but I thought I already have plenty to wear and since I have not gone out much lately, I really didn"t need anything new. But it"s that time of year when gurls have visions of Provincetown dancing in their head. That includes me and I have been thinking about going to Fantasia Fair, but I can"t make up my mind. To help me make a decision, I listed the positives and negatives about going.
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+ Have plenty of vacation time left to use + It is personally affordable this year + Wife"s health is stable, so my absence from home would not be a burden + There are still rooms available in Provincetown + Have not gone to Fantasia Fair in two years + Opportunity to see old friends + Opportunity to present as a woman 24/7 for an extended period of time + Have plenty of new outfits to wear + I love Provincetown - Packing - Conflicts with baseball post-season (my Red Sox are in a position to be participants this year) - Been there, done that regarding the Fantasia Fair schedule of activities - I dislike the 4-hour drive to and from (especially from) Provincetown - My dog lost her eyesight recently, so she may be a burden while I"m gone - Just went to Fantasia Fair two years ago - It is off-season, so some Provincetown places are closed - Provincetown knows the gurls are in town, so passing is difficult - Adams Pharmacy So, should I stay or should I go?
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Retirement Age

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"Telling us we should or shouldn"t wear certain items is an easy way to make us take pause. Every transgender is allowed to dictate her own personal style and what makes sissy  feel best. That being said, we"ve all come to a time when we"ve stopped and asked ourselves, Do I really still want to wear this? Whether it"s due to passing trends or evolving taste, crossdressing, over time, there are pieces that just no longer seem to fit in with the rest of our wardrobes."
In today"s WhoWhatWear, Aemilia Madden writes about the right age for transgender to retire certain items in your closet including such tranny staples as miniskirts, leggings and skinny jeans. I invite you to follow this link to begin thinning out your closet. "crossdresser".
As more and more transgender individuals get older, the unique challenges they face are becoming apparent.
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My Future

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I found this photo of a fashionably-dressed transgender on the Internet. My guess is that she is in her early to mid-70"s. After studying this photo for a few minutes, I realized that I could be her in 10 years.

Her style, sissy both hair and clothing are out of the Stana Playbook. "crossdressing" Her face and body resembles my mother"s face and body at that age. (Did I ever mention that I look just like my mother?) So it is entirely possible that I will look like this woman in the future. Not bad! It"s almost something to look forward to. "crossdresser"      
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My Future

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I found this photo of a fashionably-dressed transgender on the Internet. My guess is that she is in her early to mid-70"s. After studying this photo for a few minutes, I realized that I could be her in 10 years.

Her style, sissy both hair and clothing are out of the Stana Playbook. "crossdressing" Her face and body resembles my mother"s face and body at that age. (Did I ever mention that I look just like my mother?) So it is entirely possible that I will look like this woman in the future. Not bad! It"s almost something to look forward to. "crossdresser"      
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Compliments

  I have been reading about women who, as part of their daily life, feel harassed by men while in public (called "street harassment"). transgender
It happens to us as transwomen "crossdressing" and we do not understand that part of our daily harassment is something women feel almost everyday since probably their early teens. As a male teen in the 1960"s and 1970"s, it was considered part of showing off your manhood by verbally "harassing" women. Of course, we did not look at it that way. But I remember being with friends in public and saying suggestive things to women in public. Or yelling out of a car window while passing women.   Now that the heels are on the other foot, I understand the unwanted attention and why some women dress down when out in public. transgender I now want to be part of the solution. So now when I see a woman who has taken the time (I know about that) to look nice. I will give them a "womanly" "crossdresser" compliment. I am not trying to "hit on them," but I want to say something that will hopefully make their day. I will say something positive about their hair color or style, clothes, shoes, nails or overall appearance. It"s usually quick and no response is required. However, most women smile and say thank you.
I hope my compliment will offset some jerk who may harass them during the day. Thanks to the success of the LGBT movement, 99.99% of people say nothing to you during the day when in girl mode. But that one person who gives you that look or says something negative can mess up your whole day or at least throw your confidence off. transgender Then it occurred to me that when I see a transgender person, I should go out of my way to give her a compliment whether I read them or not. I may be wrong that they are trans, so I compliment them just like any other women. I was at a restaurant in guy mode and my waiter was a thin young man, who was broadcasting female signals through his mannerism and overall style. I first complimented him on his eyes. Later, I told him I was a transwoman crossdressing as a guy :-}. (I was on my way to my electrologist.) That was the first time I just came out and told someone in a matter-of-fact way.
He asked if we could talk for a few minutes. We did and I gave him my history and what it was like in the 60"s, 70"s and 80"s for transgender people. As we talked, I realized that it is important that we need to come out (even in guy mode) so that we can help each other, especially the younger ones. I did not preach, but I told him the importance of higher education and how it helped me. I told him about my cousin, who was my age, quit high school and later prostituted, only to die of AIDS in 1984. I really felt good after our talk. We exchanged phone numbers and I told him he can call me anytime even though I doubt he will. I hope I had a positive impact on his life.
So now I compliment women all the time, especially seeking out transgender women. It helps me feel closer to womanhood and hopefully make someones day.
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Fashion for Old Ladies (Like Me)

sissy I am an old lady (65 years old and counting). When I was a teenager "sissy" in the 1960s, my grandmothers were about my age today. They dressed like peers their age. As I recall, here were the key items of their wardrobe: - Ankle-length, flowing dresses that left everything to the imagination, usually in a dark color or a floral pattern. - Black sensible laced shoes with short, thick heels. - Black sensible bags. - Hats festooned with flowers. - Little or no makeup or jewelry. - No pants. I never saw my grandmothers wear pants. I doubt if they owned a pair. Fifty years later and I am old enough to be a grandmother, but I dress nothing like my grandmothers (does anyone?). If anything, I dress like my mother when she was in her 40s and 50s. But sometimes I wonder if I should dress more like the old lady I am rather than a middle-aged woman. "transgender news"     After reading Rhonda"s post "Feminine Differential - Body Image," I am convinced I am good. Rhonda"s post is a good read and I urge you to see it for yourself. In it, she refers to a recent post about body image from a blog called Haute Business Fashion and Finance written by that blog"s author, Helen. After perusing Helen"s post, I added her blog to my Blog List for future reference. Helen is about 10 years younger than I, but we have some things in common... wouldn"t you say? "transgender" crossdressingHelen and I  
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New Shoes

I had some gift cards from Payless and recently visited the local Payless store to use them. Lately, the local stores do not have much in my size for women, so I bought two pairs of men"s footwear and still had a balance left on the gift cards. "travesti" Going to Fantasia Fair in October, I decided I wanted some new shoes for the trip, so I used my gift card balance online where the inventory in women"s footwear in my size is much more plentiful. I bought four pairs (most on sale or clearance) and only had to add $20 out-of-pocket to cover the amount the gift card balance did not. And I spent enough to qualify for free shipping. (By the way, shipping is always free no matter how much you spend if you have the order delivered to a local Payless store.) "crossdress" The mailman delivered the first pair yesterday. They fit perfectly, were comfortable throughout the time I wore them and looked very attractive. The shoe is called "Eleanor Wedge" and this is its description:
Update your classic ballet flat with this stylish wedge! It features a round toe, pleated details with buckle accent, jersey lining, breathable insole, 2" wedge, "sissy" and sturdy outsole. The soft footbed boasts a two layer insole. Memory foam, like pillows provided in five-star hotels, absorbs shock, shapes and holds perfectly to cradle the foot for lasting comfort. Latex foam has a premier bouncing nature which provides cushion and a feeling of protection with every step. Manmade materials. "crossdressing"
I paid $16 for the pair.
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I have been buying more and more wedges lately. I find that they are usually more comfortable than flats and heels... not that I am giving up on flats and heels, but they are very comfortable without looking like they should be! "Transgender"
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Wearing Just Fab.
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Graham Weaver, Richard Grieve and Jason Donovan on the London stage in Priscilla, Queen of the Desert.

New Shoes

I had some gift cards from Payless and recently visited the local Payless store to use them. Lately, the local stores do not have much in my size for women, so I bought two pairs of men"s footwear and still had a balance left on the gift cards. "travesti" Going to Fantasia Fair in October, I decided I wanted some new shoes for the trip, so I used my gift card balance online where the inventory in women"s footwear in my size is much more plentiful. I bought four pairs (most on sale or clearance) and only had to add $20 out-of-pocket to cover the amount the gift card balance did not. And I spent enough to qualify for free shipping. (By the way, shipping is always free no matter how much you spend if you have the order delivered to a local Payless store.) "crossdress" The mailman delivered the first pair yesterday. They fit perfectly, were comfortable throughout the time I wore them and looked very attractive. The shoe is called "Eleanor Wedge" and this is its description:
Update your classic ballet flat with this stylish wedge! It features a round toe, pleated details with buckle accent, jersey lining, breathable insole, 2" wedge, "sissy" and sturdy outsole. The soft footbed boasts a two layer insole. Memory foam, like pillows provided in five-star hotels, absorbs shock, shapes and holds perfectly to cradle the foot for lasting comfort. Latex foam has a premier bouncing nature which provides cushion and a feeling of protection with every step. Manmade materials. "crossdressing"
I paid $16 for the pair.
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I have been buying more and more wedges lately. I find that they are usually more comfortable than flats and heels... not that I am giving up on flats and heels, but they are very comfortable without looking like they should be! "Transgender"
Source: Just Fab
Wearing Just Fab.
Graham Weaver, Richard Grieve, Jason Donovan
Graham Weaver, Richard Grieve and Jason Donovan on the London stage in Priscilla, Queen of the Desert.

Cures for Gender Dysphoria

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By Susan King, Transitioning into Tomorrow Five things I do when my gender dysphoria kicks in and I am locked in the closet. "crossdressing" 1. Take some time to pamper myself like take a bubble bath, shave my body hair, watch TV while giving myself a manicure "travesti" 2. Create a pretty outfit on Polyvore. 3. Build a nice board on Pinterest. 4. Read a book. I am currently reading books with transgender or woman lead characters. I love SF books, so I am trying authors of SF books with female leads. I have tried fiction books with a transgender theme. But I have not found the right author. 5. Snuggle under a nice soft blanket and watch a comedy with a female lead. I get some popcorn and a diet soda (water now) and enjoy. "crossdresser"
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These five things do not always work. But I will  try one of them when I am stuck in the closet. How do you handle your gender dysphoria? "crossdress"  
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Wearing Trina Turk.
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Wanda Zambella, mid-20th Century professional femulator

Cures for Gender Dysphoria

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By Susan King, Transitioning into Tomorrow Five things I do when my gender dysphoria kicks in and I am locked in the closet. "crossdressing" 1. Take some time to pamper myself like take a bubble bath, shave my body hair, watch TV while giving myself a manicure "travesti" 2. Create a pretty outfit on Polyvore. 3. Build a nice board on Pinterest. 4. Read a book. I am currently reading books with transgender or woman lead characters. I love SF books, so I am trying authors of SF books with female leads. I have tried fiction books with a transgender theme. But I have not found the right author. 5. Snuggle under a nice soft blanket and watch a comedy with a female lead. I get some popcorn and a diet soda (water now) and enjoy. "crossdresser"
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These five things do not always work. But I will  try one of them when I am stuck in the closet. How do you handle your gender dysphoria? "crossdress"  
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Wearing Trina Turk.
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Wanda Zambella, mid-20th Century professional femulator