Top Off Your Look With a Hat (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

crossdress I do not wear hats because I must wear a wig and I think that the "crossdresser" circumference of my head with a wig is too big. But I have learned that the opposite maybe true, if you wear the correct hat (style and size). As in the previous post, its about the shape of your face. You can change the shape of the face, feminize your face by adding a hat with curves/movements and you can add to your overall image and style. crossdresser I have very limited "travesti" knowledge of hats. Here is a great article about hat styles and their history. Seventeen different styles are discussed in a very concise format.
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how to measure your hat size. "crossdressing tips"
Lauren Valenti describes the best hat styles for the major face shapes.
The goal is to slim the forehead to make it appear more narrow. Any brimmed style that is medium in length will achieve this.
You'll want something with a little width and a shorter crown that will balance out the length of your face. A medium-sized floppy, cloche, crusher, or bucket style would work best.
You can pull off pretty much any "sissy" style. Go for something cool and more fashion-forward like a fisherman cap or boater style.
The goal is to create length, so something with a tall crown will give you that height you need. Look for medium to long brim fedoras, porkpies and trilby styles. Avoid anything low to the head and rounded — this will only accentuate the roundness.
You'll want to soften the angles. So anything with a curved silhouette will do the trick. Floppy's, cloches, or bowler "crossdresser" styles will help to round out your features. I am going to try some hats next summer. This summer was so hot and I need to find cover from the sun. I hope you add a "travesti" hat or two to you wardrobe.

Foundation of Your Face (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

sissy Foundation is an important makeup requirement for most of us. As males "travesti", we probably did not take care of our skin, plus we have facial hair and large pores. I remember learning how to apply beard cover and trying to match the correct foundation color to my skin. It was difficult, time-consuming and required a lot of practice.   I began wearing foundation in the early 1990's with the help of a Mary Kay representative whose husband was a crossdresser. crossdress
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In the last few years, I learned how to contour and highlight my face "sissy" to give it a less male look. Contouring requires adding darker tones, while highlighting requires adding lighter tones to your foundation. It helps create a certain appearance that either reduces male traits and/or accentuates female traits. Applying foundation, blush and contouring is done based on your face shape.
The picture shows how contouring, highlighting and blush should be applied to create a more feminine look. Below is a more detailed description for "crossdresser" each of face shape. Once you review what is best for your face shape, then practice...practice....practice. Incorporating some of these items into your makeup routine will have a big impact in your appearance. If you feel comfortable, try a makeover at a department store makeup counter (M·A·C or Clinique), a store (Ulta Beauty or Sephora) or a salesperson from Avon (Stana!) . I have had two makeovers in the past 12 months One at a Clinque counter and second one at Ulta Beauty. I learned a lot from the "crossdressing tips" Ulta lady as she was younger and showed me how to highlight and contour using difference foundation colors. This technique slightly reshaped my face and looked amazing. I now use two different foundations and I like the new look. Round crossdress TIPS:
  • Contour: Apply to the edges of the face, from the temples to the jawline and in the hollows of the cheeks
  • Highlight: Apply to the center of the hairline to the center of the forehead, down the bridge of the nose, the cheekbones under the outer corners of the eyes, and the center of the chin
  • Bronzer: Apply to the edges of the face, from the temples to the jawline
  • Blush: Don't apply blush on the apples of your cheek; this makes your face look wider, but instead sweep upward to give your face a lift, do the 'duck face'
Pear crossdress
  • Contour: Focus mostly on the sides of the face from about the ears down
  • Highlight: Apply under the eyes to the temples, bridge of nose and under your nose, forehead (but instead of going vertically, apply your highlight in horizontally) and chin
  • Bronzer: Apply to your jawline to slim jaw
  • Blush:  Apply blush along the cheekbones toward the temples or fuller area of the cheeks
Oval crossdress
  • Contour:  Apply lightly along the hairline and temples and under the cheekbones
  • Highlight: Apply to the center of the forehead, down the bridge of the nose, from the brow bone to cheekbones in a C-shape, and the center of the chin
  • Bronzer: Apply bronzer in the shape of 3 at the sides of your face
  • Blush: Don't apply blush on the apples of your cheek; this makes your face look wider, but instead sweep upward to give your face a lift, do the 'duck face'
Oblong/Long crossdress
  • Contour: Apply to the entire hairline at the top of forehead, hollows of cheeks (make the 'fish face' to find) and bottom of chin
  • Highlight: Apply above cheekbones (a little higher than where you put blush)
  • Bronzer: Apply bronzer to entire hairline at the top of forehead and on your jawline
  • Blush: Apply blush to apples of the check and blend toward the ear, almost create a horizontal line across the face
Heart/Inverted Triangle crossdress
  • Contour:  Apply to the temples, the sides of the cheeks, and the chin
  • Highlight: Apply to the center of the hairline to the center of the forehead, down the bridge of the nose, above and below the outer edges of the brows, the chin just below the lower lip and to the sides of the mouth
  • Bronzer: Apply to the sides of the forehead and slightly lower your cheekbones
  • Blush: Avoid applying blush too high and instead apply it slightly lower than the cheekbones or you can apply a small amount on the apple and blend it out, but remember to leave a gap at the cheekbones.
Rectangle/Square crossdress
  • Contour: Apply to the temples and from the hollows of the cheeks to the jawline
  • Highlight: Apply to the center of the hairline and the center of the forehead, above and below the outer edges of the brows and the center of the chin
  • Bronzer: Apply to the sides of the forehead and jawline
  • Blush: Don't apply blush on the apples of your cheek, this makes your face look wider, but instead sweep upward to give your face a lift, do the 'duck face'
Diamond crossdress
  • Contour: Apply to the sides of the face starting at the temples moving down to just pass the hollows of of cheeks, no further
  • Highlight: Focus on the forehead, the cheekbones under the outer corner of your eye, and chin (apply highlight horizontally)
  • Bronzer: Apply to the outer edges of the cheeks and temples, avoid the middle face
  • Blush: Apply to upper most part of your cheeks and blended toward your temples
And most importantly, feel beautiful because you are beautiful.

Corset Maintenance for Crossdressers (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

When you buy expensive corsets, you want to be sure to take care of them. No one wants to feel like they wasted their hard earned money. Storing, cleaning, and handling your garment the right way will extend the life of the garment. So, if you want to educate yourself on how to maintain your corset read more TIPS. crossdresser
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Storing Your Corsets: Right when you take your corset out of the original packaging you "transgender"  should be diligent about where you keep it. Most people think they can shove them in their panty or sock draw, but one should not do this. Nice corsets should be hung in a closet by the laces. This will ensure that your boning will not bend or get damaged. It will also keep your corset ‘ready to wear’. Most of the time when you shove corsets in a draw- the lacing gets all tangled and uneven. Storing your garments in this way will keep the lacing even and let your garment air out. crossdressercrossdresser Never Use Washing or Drying Machines: Putting steel boned corsets in the washing or drying machine, is like throwing your money in the garbage. This will ruin your corsets steel boning. The "crossdressing" constant movement of the machines will cause the boning to bend or potentially rust. Plus all that banging around could cause the metal to penetrate the fabric and ruin it. crossdresser Spot Clean or Dry Cleaning: Using a warm water and some detergent for small cleaning on your corset usually does the trick with most corsets. Never scrub your corset! This could cause your fabric to bleed, or run. For people that wear "crossdress" corsets daily, sending your corsets to the dry cleaners! You will never regret taking your corsets right to the professionals. It is worth the money and keeps your corsets looking fresh and new. crossdresser Corset Liners: Many people choose to wear a thin camisole or tank top underneath their corsets to help maintain the freshness. That extra barrier will keep some sweat off the corset. You can also make your own by taking an old t-shirt and trimming below the arms to fit the length of the "sissy" corset; you end up with a tube piece of material for an easy and effective liner. Some websites actually sell corset liners that help keep corsets fresh and clean for longer. crossdresser Vodka water: This is trick I learned throughout my years of wearing corsets. 50% water, 50% vodka. Could be cheap "travesti" vodka- doesn’t matter. Giving your garment a quick mist over will help with the smell of body odor, and stains. Let your corset fully air dry before wearing or storing. This should not be used on silk corsets. Cotton/cotton-poly reacts well. Hope these "crossdresser tips" were useful! Happy lacing friends!

How To Understanding Sissy (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Advice)

Have you always felt you were a sissy? For those of you, who are reading this right now, it’s clear that you want to know about sissy or being one. Being sissy is a really common fetish. Throughout history turning into a sissy has been a huge fetish of many people. It’s also something a lot of people do on their own and private without the help of anyone else. They mostly do it for fun. Dressing as a woman can be very private, only "transgender" for your enjoyment and stimulation or you can share the experience with others. Sissies act effeminate; wear clothes deemed girlish in style or color and do things considered girly. Sissy act and dress as frilly and feminine as possible, but never in a mainstream way. They love ruffles, satin, and lace in yellow, white and pink, anything that accentuates femininity usually garters & stockings, high heels, and costumes. It is no surprise that most sissies are usually submissive in nature, a soft demeanor that earns to serve.
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Often when you come upon social profiles of sissies, they are seeking a strong sense of domination to bring out the girl in them, and suppress the male characteristics. I have been living as a sissy for many years now and have realized that I love everything about it. I think I was a teenager when I sneaked into my sister's room and there was her green frock lying on the bed that looked so appealing to me. I wore it since no one was home. I looked into the mirror and I loved it. The second time I crossdressed was at a birthday party of my cousin sister. My cousins completely did the whole thing. They dressed me up in a cute pink dress, white stocking, bra and panties, hair wig, did my makeup, polished my nails, made me carry a women's purse. Then they took me out to where everyone was hanging for the party. It was very strange to be out in public as a girl. I felt so sissy. I was both exited to be in this new appearance and also very self conscious of the way people might perceive. I was wearing something that I wasn't supposed to be in. It was really fun, I felt a little humiliated but i liked it very much.
Crossdressing is usually seen as something that men do by wearing women's clothing but it can be the other way around too. This eBook is going to be directed towards sissy and sissies are men who like to feel humiliated, sexy, naughty, girlish or aroused in a way by dressing in women's clothing. Wearing different outfits and styles gives you different sensation. Dressing up in a velvet skirt, satin blouse and lace panties or something like that, you will feel the feminine sensation from wearing those different outfits. Have fun with women’s clothing, because its fun. Its the reason that lots of women love shopping, because there are so many cute clothes "crossdresser" to indulge in. Get out there, get the outfits you can afford and experiment. You'll soon be transformed into the sissy of your dreams walking in high heel shoes, with feminine pink pantyhose, and stockings and garters that embrace your smooth silky thighs. You'll become a feminine lady sissy with a higher tone of voice, soft and soothing, sexy and vital. Your inner girly sissy is waiting to burst out and flourish with each expression and gesture, with every feminine smile, ready for your love.

When did you make the gender switch?

This year, my Hamvention experience was amazing and filled with so many memories! Where do I begin?   In case you just tuned in, Hamvention is the largest ham radio convention this side of the Arctic Circle and I have been a regular attendee since 1979. Also, I am a well-known "crossdresser" writer in the ham radio world having penned among other things, five books and over 1,200 articles. Since 2010, I have been attending Hamvention as a woman. Although it was scary the first time going in, I quickly realized that most of the "sissy" attendees did not recognize me as that well-known writer. Rather, they assumed I was a middle-aged woman, probably the wife of a ham, helping out at one of the booths at the convention.
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transgender Aha moments only occurred when someone examined my name badge and recognized my "travesti" call sign. Those moments were few and far between and I was basically invisible at Hamvention. As a result, I passed successfully. This year was very different. The folks who run Hamvention chose me (as Stan) to be the recipient of their prestigious Special Achievement Award. I had to decide quickly who would go to Hamvention to accept the honor. I thought about "sissy" it for about 30 seconds ― that invisible middle-aged woman who has been attending Hamvention for the past six years would make the trip to Dayton to pick up the award. transgender So I emailed the Hamvention folks my biography and a current "transgender" photo to display on their website and print in the convention program, which means that anyone who looked at the website or program would see that the winner of the award was that well-known writer, but now he is a she! Some people thought that the Hamvention folks had erred using an unknown woman's photo with Stan's write-up and that is my fault. I stuck with Stan because (1) the people who nominated me for the award nominated "Stan" not "Stana" and (2) Stan not Stana, was responsible for the "crossdressing" bulk of the accomplishments I was being honored for. As a result, there was some confusion among the civilians attending Hamvention. The following anecdote is an example of their disorientation. Throughout the Hamvention, I kept running into a husband and wife in my hotel, who I recognized from past Hamventions, but could not remember who they were. So whenever I saw them, I would just wave or say "Hi" and leave it at that. transgender Saturday evening, as I exited the hotel dressed to the nines to attend the awards dinner, the husband was outside smoking. I said "Hi" and continued to walk to my car, when I heard the husband say, "Stan, when did you make the gender switch?" I turned around. He did not seem angry, upset or transphobic, but rather curious, so I politely answered his question. "I've been reading your articles for "crossdress"years and I had no idea!" he added. And that was atypical. A few people asked me what name did I prefer, but most people accepted me as I was without asking me to explain myself. And it does not get much better than that!
transgender A chorus of gurls in the 1944 film When Irish Eyes Are Smiling.

Ten Trans Tips (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

travesti Tired of seeing that drop-jaw face from a cis female friend when you admit you don't know how to use a basic girls' tool?  Wish you had more of a warning about that weird trash can in the women's bathroom stall?  Are you fed up with visiting the ER after punching the mirror that for bullying you?   Well, I may have a bit of Neosporin for your emotional scares.  I've compiled a list of tips to help my trans sisters find their way in this crazy, awesome, sexy world!

1. Go Femme or Go Home

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Wear girly clothes.  Cis girls can get away with wearing dirty boy clothes and not showering for a week and still passing, but it's a little harder for a trans girl, who will go through the same treatment and come out with greasy hair, less toned skin, and, well, in some cases a beard.
When I was first dressing, I wore mostly androgynous clothing and I was comfortable, until I caught a person in a store looking at me oddly as if they were trying to "figure me out." My confidence is always destroyed by looks like that, and it took me a long time to prepare defenses for those instances.  As a result, I was afraid to dress very femme in fear of being the "dude in a dress."  So, I wore unisex clothing, "crossdress" such as v-neck shirts, "skinny" jeans (they weren't very skinny compared to what I wear now), and I hated how my hair looked - because I didn't understand it - so I usually put it up in a ponytail.  One night, a friend told me, "I could pass if I wanted to," but didn't pass very well right then.  It confused me at first, but eventually I realized what she meant.  I tried avoiding my androgynous clothing in favor of femme clothes, or clothes that were designed for females only.  I would pick clothes where, if a cis guy was wearing them, people would take issue, and that's what really helped my passability.  Suddenly, I was mostly female (at least in dress) to people who encountered me, and it helped me pass a lot better. Today, I'm further along in my transition, and my body looks a lot more female, so I am able to pull off a t-shirt and jeans while passing pretty well, but if I ever want to secure my confidence, I'll wear a dress, skirt, or total femme styles with makeup.  It really boils down to mimicking aspects of society that you want to be a part of.

2. Study Bobby Pins and Stuff

Learn your gender's norms.  Nothing outs me more than a suspicious lack of knowledge about "girl stuff."  I believe I pass pretty well, and even my voice is solid, but sometimes I'll reveal something to a girlfriend that makes them wonder about me.  I had to teach myself all kinds of things that most girls learned early in their life, such as how to use a blowdryer, straightener, curling wand, bobby pins, hair ties, headbands, and more.  I even borrowed a pad from my friend just so I could figure out how to wear it.  I mean...what kind of girl never has worn a tampon or pad?  I found that knowing those things helps other girls see me as one of their own.  Sometimes, all it takes for me to bond with a girl is to share a story about my boots falling apart, how I forgot bobby pins, or how ugly I feel without my makeup.  They relate to me that way. I am definitely a tomboy, which makes a lot of sense since I grew up as a guy, so it was a challenge for me to take time out of my schedule to practice doing my hair, makeup, and fashion.  Yes, I know it's "catering to the gender binary," but the world has its standards, and those who go against it are usually seen as odd rebels or recluses.  Catering to these standards is a smart way to increase my acceptance in social circles, which is something I want.

3. Listen in the Bathroom

Notice how others girls act.  After all, cis girls have been in girl/boy groupings since they were toddlers and have been watching their counterparts for their entire life.  That said, my first instinct when I encounter a toilet bowl is to flip up my skirt and just piss right there standing up, but I'm pretty sure that'd alarm any ladies in the neighboring stalls.  As a trans woman, I am an expert at watching other women.  I notice their fashions, walk styles, how they hold themselves and talk, but I also notice how they use the bathroom. Older women might take their time, but a lot of girls my age (22-27) will rush into the stall, pull their pants/skirt/panties down as they sit and pee immediately, and, unlike men's rooms where they aim for the water's edge or a water-less urinal, you hear the waterworks like it's broadcast over speakers.  Also, and I didn't know this, but they need to clean up with toilet paper afterward, so even though I don't need to I always take a piece at the end.  I'm told female-bodied people can generally control their bladder much better than male-bodied.  I admit I've listened carefully in bathrooms in my first visits, and now I joke that women either urinate like a leaking faucet or a pumped super soaker.  Therefore, the slow beginning and gradual end of peeing with a penis can seem kind of odd in a bathroom where girls' streams are on and off.  I do my best to imitate this, and it helps every girl in there assume I deserve and am supposed to be there.

4. Say Goodbye to Your Buddies and Hello to Your Girlfriends

Embrace your new friends and prepare to outgrow your old ones.  I grew up attending Catholic school, which means a long history of uniforms catering to the gender binary.  My high school was actually all-boy, so I had to adhere to semi-proper pants, collared shirts (tucked in), and facial and head hair limitations. When I started college, I realized that my entire social circle from high school and before consisted of straight white cis males.  In other words, I had a ton of "buddies" and very few female friends.  Oddly, most of my college friends turned out to be girls, even when I was a guy.  I think that's because, in my previous grades and especially high school, I was heavily partitioned into the boys' groups.  At college, which is a much more free environment, I was able to experiment with my sexuality (bisexual, at the time) and I gravitated toward female and LGBT social circles.
I was halfway through college when I transitioned, and now my friend circle is much different than three years ago.  I have just a few guy friends and nearly all of my friends are girls.  I'm not saying all trans women will experience this, but I guess I turned out to be fairly girly at my core and I fit in with the girls more than the boys.  I bond with my coworker by joining her in complaining about boys being dumb, and, when my boyfriend's buddy jams with him (guitar/bass) in my apartment, his girlfriend and I will head off and do our own thing in the other room.  One day, I walked into class, and the tables were arranged in a U-shape, with the girls on the left and boys on the right.  It wasn't assigned seating - it was just how the class came together that day.  All the seats were taken, but the girls scooted their chairs aside and made me a spot by pulling a chair up to the table. On that day, I realized I was accepted as "one of the girls." Also, there's the issue of how different it is to hang out with a guy as a girl than as a guy.  Two guys are buddies, and they can go get in trouble or get drunk or chase chicks (or guys) - it's a special bond that I used to understand and benefit from.  As a girl, hanging out with a guy friend is much different.  We are frequently mistaken as a couple in public, and there's the issue of sexual tension (assuming you're into guys).  My best friend, from grade school, feels much more like a possible partner now than he ever did.  After all, he would never even think about being with me when I was a guy, but he does now.  I know he does because of how he treats me.  He's a gentleman and takes care of me when I get too drunk or something.  It's much more intimate, and I think that's an important realization I've made about how my relationships form, as opposed to before. After reflection, I think that it's important to allow yourself to make friends in the group(s) of people you want to be a part of.  Whether that's being genderqueer, a regular girl, or something else, it doesn't matter, because it's all about being you and making changes so you can find where you belong.  When you shift from one type of people to another, who have their own style of doing things and culture, you should be prepared for the consequences/benefits that will fall on your existing relationships, and gender is no exception.

5. Pass the Make-Up Test

Be patient and learn your makeup.  I said above that girls have been learning how to be girls since they were toddlers.  I've watched my sister undergo this entire process, and I thought it was adorable when her friend was teaching her lip gloss, nail painting, or mascara.  I didn't personally get to learn this when I was young, so I had some pretty emotional moments attempting to mimic the makeup jobs of supermodels only to fail and look like the Joker from The Dark Knight.  Seriously, I looked bad - so bad, in fact, that I would take a shower to scrub the makeup off and then cry myself to sleep.  I felt like I'd never get it right, and I felt so alone and behind. I kept practicing, though.  I learned tricks from girlfriends who supported me and, after a while, I got it down. Like most girls, I can now apply foundation, powder, eye shadow, mascara, and lip gloss in the first five minutes at my desk at work, or even while driving to work.  So, don't give up if it's giving you trouble.  I've bonded over this experience with many cis girls who weren't even aware I used to be a boy.  Basically, just remember that all girls, trans or cis, struggle to learn makeup at some point in their life, and we just have a late start.

6. Hate Being a Girl

From a born-female's perspective, their body seems like a burden compared to a born-male's.  Their first experience in puberty is a bleeding vagina and painful boob growth, and they grow up with tons of pressure to be beautiful and proper.  I watched my mom snap at my sister for spreading her legs in a skirt ("Sit like a girl, please.") and my sister refusing to comb her hair, and, oh my, did she hate it when she had to start using tampons and wear a training bra.  At one point, she yelled at my mom, "I wish I was a boy."  My mom gave me a glaring look when she said that.  But, it's true I think.  From that perspective, being a boy seems so glorious, where the worst puberty issues are acne, hair growth, and horniness.
With this in mind, I've noticed a lot of cis girls being a bit bitter about their gender.  Granted, some absolutely love it, while others, usually "travesti" a bit more rambunctious or tomboy-ish, aren't so fond of their gender's norms.  As a trans woman, after many learned lessons, I decided to keep my trans excitement and insecurities restricted to trans friends.  My cis friend at school doesn't relate very much when I geek out about my curves or breasts via HRT, or if I whine about not being able to have kids.  Most girls I befriend are absolutely terrified of having kids.  They flat out say, "I am probably going to adopt.  I could never give birth.  That sounds horrible."  Some girls say that one day they want kids, but many years from now.  Very few will grab their bellies and go, "I want to have a baby so bad," like many of my trans women friends do.  I try not to let my jealousy take over, and consider how I am a bit lucky that I don't have periods or have to worry about getting pregnant.  It's kind of a small reward for all the hell I've endured, in my eyes. So, I remember this, and try to drop a few complaints here and there.  I'll  even joke with guy friends that I wish I could grow a beard so I can have a badass mustache (even though I can) or tell girlfriends how I wish I didn't have to wear a bra.  I think it's kind of naive to assume that cis people love the gender binary.  Everyone hates things about their gender - trans people just hate a lot more.  As a girl, I miss aspects of being a guy, like being able to have messy short hair, or not worry about shaving.  While the pros outweigh the cons in being a girl, I remember that I can really click with a lot of girls by at least hating a few things about our gender.

7. Love Being a Girl

Girls rule and boys drool.  After you get over that hump about what you dislike about your gender, you can really embrace what you love, and this is where I've developed deep, meaningful relationships with my female friends.  Yea, we bitch about girl-only things, but we also share those things, something that cis guys will never understand.
It's embarrassing to break down and cry in front of someone, but you feel so relieved afterward, and all girls do it from time to time.  We bond over it.  I find a lot of my "sissy" cis guy friends don't get that.  After all, they probably see crying as a weakness in their circles.  Girls share all kinds of things like that, just like boys, and I think girl cultures foster a much greater sense of community because of it.  When I could share these experiences with girls, I found myself accepted and loved, and I frequently go out to bars, parties, or dinner with girlfriends.  Girl groups bond very differently than guy groups, and once you learn the intricacies of these relationships, you will have an easier time fitting in.

8. Embrace the Crazy

Hormones are normal - embrace them.  I know a lot of trans girls who are excited to start HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), and then bitch about their emotions, skin sensitivity, and other changes.  As a guy, I was raised with the impression that emotions are weakness, and I should be tough and strong.  As a girl, it's much different.  I am "allowed" to cry, need help lifting things, be a bit ditzy, and otherwise be the standard girl that confuses all the guys.  Do you know how many times guys react to some of my hormonal shit and desires with, "Girls are weird," or, "Girls are confusing"?  A lot. I am not afraid of these changes in my psychology and body chemistry.  After all, "transgender" they unite me with my fellow females.  Guys won't understand, but the girls will, and I love that feeling.  I love knowing that, not only am I a girl in character and appearance, but I am a girl in the eyes of other girls.  I think a lot of cis girls feel the same way I do, as well.

9. Be Aware of the Lowered Bar

People will expect less of you.  It's not a happy truth, but it's a real one.  Women's rights aims to solve this little imbalance, where women are expected to be worse in many "man" fields than their male counterparts.  The bar is lower, and, as a trans woman, you're going to get emotionally punched in the face if you aren't ready for this reality.  The lowered bar has its pros and cons.  For instance, while you may experience less respect in your career, be assumed a "weakling" (boys rarely look to me for help lifting things), expected to be clumsy or ditzy, or they might assume you "won't understand" deep discussions.
This can be a good thing in some instances.  For example, I hate carrying furniture.  I hated it as a guy because my dad would always ask me and my brothers to mow the lawn, help carry furniture out to the van, or place mulch, while my mom and sister did the easier, less-difficult jobs, like watering the plants, opening doors for the furniture, or tell us where to put the mulch.  So, you can be way lazier than people might allow as a guy.  Since you aren't expected to rock the show all the time, you can just sit in the shadows without anyone blaming you. While some women are totally fine being dependent and submissive, for me the lowered bar is a hinderance.  I have to constantly deal with professors "crossdressing" giving me a strange look when I propose a complex project or guys poking fun at me for having pro-feminism opinions, no matter how well-put my arguments are or what achievements I've earned in my life in my career.  I work in video/film and after transition, one of my colleagues would not let me adjust his lights.  I went to school with him and studied the same stuff, but he turned to one of the guys on set, who he's never worked with before (unlike me), and asked him to adjust it.  In a moment like that, you start to realize, even though you can rest while others work, you aren't respected.  I am constantly working harder than I ever did as a guy to earn respect for my work.

10. You Can Do Whatever the Fuck You Want

While women's rights is still the underdog, we "transgender" do have a lot of freedom.  It wasn't until after I was passing as a woman that I realized most of them.
  • There is no women's department.  As a guy, if I found myself in the women's section at a clothing store, I'd probably be the subject of my surrounding co-shoppers' thoughts, "Is he gay?  Is he a crossdresser?  Maybe it's for his girlfriend?"  As a girl, I can shop in the men's, boys', girls', or even toddlers' sections, because fashion is ageless and genderless, and it is, well, kind of our thing.  A girl can wear anything in the boy's section, because anything can make a girl's outfit, and the worst thing people will likely think/ask is, "Is she a lesbian?"  Sadly, this is an issue many trans men would complain about - how people rarely take their gender seriously, but for us girls, it's a benefit.
  • Sit back and relax, because usually people (mostly those who are attracted to you) will do things for you.  They'll open doors, bring you food/drink, give you cigarettes, gift you a back massage, drive you places, and treat you to little things.  Don't like carrying a bunch of heavy shit while moving?  It's ten times easier to find friends to help you when you're female - I would know.  When I first moved out, I had two buddies, and I did most of the work, but as a girl, I had like five guys and I barely carried anything heavy.
  • You've got boobs.  I swear, boobs have to have some sort of hypnotizing factor.  I'll catch straight girls looking that them, probably while comparing mine to hers, and guys will seemingly do just about any favor for a hug (Gee, I wonder why?).  Overall, you're a cute, pretty girl, and at the very least you have boobs, so you have some sexually-charged influence, but only if you're willing to accept and utilize it. It's this "sex factor" that allows me to be a goofy, dumb, crazy, annoying bitch, and go the whole night without pissing everyone off.  I can't say the same for when I was a guy.
  • You can play dumb to get out of a lot of shit.  Cops are always super nice to me, and I've been in some pretty stupid accidents that were my fault.  As a guy, I still got along with cops, but they didn't give me much credit, because they thought I knew better.  Sorry, but sexism exists, and, while you may not agree with me, it's not so bad if you enjoy its benefits.  So, whenever I make a mistake or do something embarrassing or idiotic, and don't feel like enduring all of that guilt or owning up to it, I decide to just turn on my cute factor, push out my chest, and nervously admit I didn't know better, and I get away with so much shit.
Overall, girls are not really seen as leaders and dominant roles in the world, which is probably because guys  "transgender" are very pressured to be strong, smart leaders.  Simply put, girls don't have the same expectations, and it's consequently "transgender" harder for them to earn the same ranks as men due to increased skepticism, but they also have a lot less pressure.  In a lot of ways, some girls chose to be regular and not push themselves above what is expected, while others fight for respect by going above and beyond in their work, school, and home life.  Either way, as a girl, you have a lot more freedom, and, if you're smart, you can use the system to manipulate others and get your way.  Wouldn't it be nice to just play the "dumb girl" card?  Sadly, if you use it as much as I do, your friends may catch on, as some of mine have.

Shaving for TGirls (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

crossdress Ok, time for some useful information about shaving. Like . . . a trick that every girl learned from her mom, but most crossdressers probably never had the opportunity to pick up. . I’m sure you heard from your dad, however, to shave in the opposite direction of hair growth when you shave your face. Or if you use an electric razor, you have to go in circles AND up and down. Well the same goes for the rest of your body (mostly), which makes sense . . . but most people don’t realize what direction their hair actually grows. Actually, I know a lot of girls who don’t even bother trying to figure it out because their hair is fine enough that it doesn’t matter. But for crossdressers with coarse hair, this can make a huge difference.
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crossdress Before going into details, let me just say that if you have long hair (ie first time shaving or it’s been awhile), make a first pass over everything WITH the hair growth – your razor was designed for a certain hair length, and if your hair is too long it will pull the skin up close to the blade (like it’s supposed to) and then clog up and pull the hair instead of cutting or worse yet pull the skin too hard and nick you. In either event, your skin will swell a bit and your final pass will just cut and scrape you up instead of giving you a nice clean shave. Shaving with the hair prevents the blades from pulling the skin close to the blade and instead just chops off the long part of the hair, leaving stubble that you can take off with your final pass which will go AGAINST the hair growth. . Now that that’s out of the way . . . your body hair grows in circles. Yes, "transgender" really. But that’s ok, they’re predictable
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circles. We’ll start at the top and work down. Back hair for the most part grows down and towards your spine. Forget about shaving this exactly with the growth on the first pass (try just shaving up, that should work), but for the final pass "crossdressing" this is rather convenient because shaving up and out (towards your shoulder) is a reasonably natural motion. At least, as natural as shaving your own back can be . . . And just for clarity, “out (towards your shoulder)” is in a different direction for your left and right side. .crossdress Moving to your front, chest hair grows in a similar pattern – the upper chest hair largely points to the center of your chest, while hairs around your "travesti" nipples and lower point a bit more downward but still somewhat inwards. Hairs close to your nipples probably make a bit of a swirl pattern, growing around the nipple but usually never growing upwards. That means if you start with an up-stroke shaving your chest, you will mostly be trimming longer hairs but also catching the handful of hairs the grown downwards. Then finish with an out-stroke to get a smooth finish on the majority of hairs that grow inwards. Go around the left side of your nipples starting from the bottom and going left, up, and around to the top. Go around the right side of your nipples starting from the bottom and going right, up, and around to the top. Don’t shave over your nipple directly unless you want to take it off though! Getting the center of your chest and over your collarbone is tricky, but do it the same way you shave your jaw-line – skin is stretchy, so pull it away from the edge of the bone so that it’s (relatively) flat and taught. Don’t be tempted to press hard to shave a concavity (like the center of your chest) because it won’t work and is almost guaranteed to cut you in the process. .crossdress Underarms, this is an interesting one. Underarm hair grows in 3 directions – down (at the bottom), up (at the top), and towards your back (center). I usually shave up first, then down, and "sissy" then towards my chest – this last direction hits some of the more sensitive hairs and goes over some large muscle ridges, so do it carefully. But if you don’t shave all 3 directions you’ll end up with ugly stubble. Again, be careful to flatten the skin as much as you can, and don’t press hard. These ridges are mostly muscles, so just relax your arm as much as you can, and you should be able to get them to go away (though maybe only one at a time). .crossdress Arms . . . arm hair on the side near your thumb grows down, so you can take out most of it with nice easy upwards strokes (towards your shoulder). Hair on the other side of your arm though grows in a couple directions. Some of it is down, much of it grows around your arm (towards your inner arm, the side without much hair), and some of it right near your wrist actually grows up. . Most belly hair grows down and slightly inwards. Hair around the navel grows towards the navel though, so you’ll "transgender" need to take some little strokes in each direction out away from your navel. . Butt hair (don’t laugh!) grows in two directions. Mostly it grows down, however, the closer you get to the center of your body, the more hairs point inward. You’ll probably need to cover your entire butt with both up-strokes and out-strokes. Hair on your perineum (between your butt and your balls) grows towards your back, as does hair on your balls. Hair around the edge of your penis points down the shaft. Be really careful with this hair though, it’s super sensitive. crossdress . Hair on the front and back of your thigh grows down, but hair on the sides points around the leg towards the back. This goes for hair near your crotch too, which can be really difficult to shave. Don’t forget that skin stretches – if you pull it down your leg and go over the area, then pull it in to your crotch and go over it again, you can usually pick up all the hair though. . Hair on the lower legs grows down, and hair on the feet grows towards your toes. These are actually really easy areas to shave if you’re just very careful about bones and joints. Don’t try to just go straight over a ridge or protrusion, slow down and make sure the razor stays on a flat surface. That means you’ll have to shave each face of the joint separately, and then move the skin a bit to shave the apex. But you won’t have any cuts if you do that! .