9 Ways to Highlight Your Assets (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Highlighting your assets is the secret to being a super hot crossdresser or transgender woman. It’s impossible for people to notice your “flaws” if they’re too busy looking at something else – like your sexy legs, breasts, or behind. But it’s NOT about wearing the tightest, shortest thing you can find. It’s about attracting attention in a classy and tasteful way. Here are 9 ways to show off your best assets:
If your LEGS are your best asset …

Choose your best skirt length

legs-skirt The most elegant and flattering skirt length is generally 1-2 inches above or below the knee. (Notice I did NOT say crotch length!) Here’s a simple test for finding the best skirt length for your body:
  • Stand in front of a mirror wearing the shoes you normally wear with skirts or dresses.
  • Hold up a piece of fabric and raise and lower the hemline of the fabric in front of your legs.
  • Notice which length make your legs look best.

Wear pantyhose

legs-pantyhose Although pantyhose isn’t as popular as it used to be, hosiery adds polish and definition to the legs. It’s also a great way to cover up imperfections. The secret is to wear the sheerest pantyhose you can find for a sexy, modern look.

Try D’orsay pumps

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D’Orsay pump with a high heel D’Orsay pump with a low heel
The D’Orsay is a shoe style where the sides are cut away to reveal the arch of the foot. This is an elegant shoe style that’s perfect for showing off beautiful legs. While high heels give your legs maximum definition, the D’Orsay is also flattering in flats and low pumps.
If your BREASTS are your best asset …

Go for deep “v” necklines

breasts-vneck The easiest way to show off beautiful breasts is to wear a low cut top – and v-necks are especially flattering. But how low is too low? A good rule of thumb is to show off 20%-40% of your bust. This gives you sex appeal, while keeping it classy.

Look for tops that frame your breasts

breasts-frametop2 Another flattering option is to wear tops that frame your breasts. Think halter tops or tops that have shirring or trimming at the bustline. The more defined the bust area, the more “the girls” will stand out.

Apply a bit of shimmer powder

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Sephora MicroSmooth Baked Luminizer Stila All Over Shimmer Duo
A final way to make your bust pop is to apply a bit of shimmer powder to the visible part of the breasts. This highlights the breasts, similar to the way eyeshadow highlights the eyes. Just be sure you aren’t using anything too glittery or shiny. A shimmer powder like Sephora MicroSmooth Baked Luminizer or Stila All Over Shimmer Duo will give you a subtle glow – not make you look like a disco ball.
If your BUTT is your best asset …

Wear skirts or dresses with ruching in the back

butt-ruching Ruching (i.e. gathering along the seam line) adds volume to your curves and highlights your assets. It’s one of the easiest ways to make a great butt look even better.

Look for bottoms with a sweet heart or “v” shaped back yoke

butt-yoke A yoke is a piece of fabric located below the waistband of a skirt or pants. The shape of the yoke has a major effect on the appearance of your butt. Sweet heart and “v” shaped yokes are most flattering. Stay away from straight yokes (they make your waist look larger) and wide yokes (they make it look like your pants are falling down).

Try butt-enhancing shapewear

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Foxy Fanny Silicone Padded Brief Caboost! Padded Panties The Tush Cush
There are tons of butt-enhancing undergarments on the market now – ranging from butt-lifting shapewear to heavy-duty padded panties. Here are 3 top-reviewed booty enhancers: Even if you are already blessed with a beautiful behind, the right shapewear can give you added oomph under your clothes. Think of it like a push-up bra for your behind. So girlfriend, which body part if YOUR best asset? Your legs, breasts, butt … or maybe something else? Please take my poll and leave me your comments below! Better yet, why not upload a photo and show us?    

7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements


The way you move is a huge part of your feminine image.

But what if you feel you have all the grace of a truck driver?

The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements.

In a previous article, I explained how to walk like a woman. Now let’s talk about how to make your gestures and deportment more graceful and feminine.

Here are my top 7 tips for feminizing your body movements:

1. Slow down


It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.

To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.

2. Keep your knees together and your elbows in


I know you’ve probably been told this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in – especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why you need to be conscious about keeping your knees together and your elbows in.

Why elbows in? Because it’s easy to be clumsy when your limbs are spread out all over the place. Keeping your elbows close to your body will instantly make your gestures more graceful.

3. Stretch out


It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.

You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:


4. Don’t fidget


Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:

  • Twirling your hair
  • Biting your nails
  • Shaking your leg
  • Tapping your fingers
  • Compulsively checking your phone

Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.

5. Study graceful women


There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.

See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.


6. Take dance classes


If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.

Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll also get some awesome hip movement training!

7. Practice


Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.

Here are some specific movements to practice:

  • Sitting down
  • Standing up
  • Gesturing as you speak
  • Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
  • Table manners
  • Getting into and out of a car

What do your movements say about you?

You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have control over your body movements.

Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!

Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.

Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?

Please leave your comments below!  

Are You Too Old to Crossdress or Transition as a Woman?


Every now and then, I hear somebody ask…

“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a woman?”

The simple answer to this question is NO.

Whether you are 33 or 73 – and whether you aim to express yourself through crossdressing, or live as a woman full time – it’s NEVER too late to be your true femme self.

Life is short and you deserve to make the most of your precious time on earth.

Does this mean you should act on every frivolous whim that crosses your mind? Of course not. And obviously, life-changing moves like hormones or surgery need to be given serious thought.

But I believe the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.

In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life. I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.

Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!

In the words of Laverne Cox, “It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”

I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true femme self.

So go for it, girlfriend: Buy the shoes, schedule the makeover, contact the gender therapist – or do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.

You deserve it. And it’s not too late.

Do you agree that age is just a number?

Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic …

How old were you when you decided to embrace your fab femme self? (Or are you still waiting?)

Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!

Waterproof makeup for Crossdressers: Perfect for summer

If you love swimming, if you perspire heavily when you work out or if you
simply tend to shed a few tears here and there, waterproof makeup is a must when summer rolls around. Say goodbye to eye shadow caked in the creases of your eyelids, raccoon eyes caused by smudged mascara and foundation that fades.

Waterproof, water-resistant or long-wear makeup?

Long-wear makeup is formulated to last longer than regular makeup (4 to 8 hours more or even up to 24 hours) under normal conditions. It is not meant to resist sweat or immersion in water. As for water-resistant makeup, it will stay put during exercise, a hectic night on the dance floor or a dip in the pool. But if you want something that can withstand all conditions, anywhere, anytime, even under water, waterproof makeup is your best bet.
Quick tip!
Professional makeup artists recommend waterproof makeup for women who have drooping eyelids or fine lines around their mouths, as it keeps makeup from feathering and creasing.

Waterproof your look

Foundation, concealer, eye shadow, mascara and lipstick can all be waterproof or made to be. Here are some suggestions:
  • Complexion. During summer, you usually have a more even complexion and a sun-kissed glow. That’s why you can get away with masking any minor flaws with a waterproof concealer or foundation.
  • Eyes. Choose waterproof eye shadow or apply a liquid protective film over your regular eye colour to waterproof it. Finish off your eye makeup with waterproof liner and .
  • Lips. Apply waterproof lip liner to your entire lip surface. Follow with clear gloss to add some shine. You can also just use waterproof lipstick.
Good to know!
If you have sensitive, reactive skin, waterproof makeup might not be suitable for you, given the extra ingredients it contains. Plus, if you have large pores, waterproof foundation might not be a good option, since it can cause some clogging.

Removing waterproof makeup

Waterproof makeup is so resistant it can sometimes be difficult to remove. To get the job done, you need the right .
For eye makeup, you have two options: cleansing dry oil or dual-phase (oil- and water-based) remover. Oil-free makeup removers will only get rid of some of your mascara; you will probably end up wiping harder and harder and this will irritate your skin. For facial makeup, you can use regular remover. In both cases, finish off your routine with  to eliminate any oil and makeup residue.

DIY tips for crossdressers

Some of the DIY beauty myths you've heard over the years are BS. Whoever thought washing hair with beer was a good idea must have been under the influence of one too many shandies themselves, but there are some quick fixes you can try at home that do work. Here are some of our favourites: 

1. Drink a large bottle of water after brushing your teeth.
This is MC cover girl, Cameron Diaz's tip for waking up your digestive tract for the day. 'Every night before I go to sleep, I fill up a big glass bottle with water and put it on my bathroom counter. First thing in the morning, right after I brush my teeth, I drink it. Because I know that during the night, while I am sleeping, all of that breathing in and out exhales a lot of moisture from my lungs. Imagine how much water you can lose during eight hours of breathing! Because we can’t replenish it while we are sleeping, it’s important to rehydrate once we wake. Once I drink the water in the bottle by my sink, I feel it immediately. I go from being a wilted plant to one that has just been rejuvenated by the rain.'

2. Use mayonnaise to protect your hair
Before you dismiss this as utter madness, just look at Blake Lively's lusicous mane. The actress has just revealed in an interview with Byrdie that she puts mayonnaise on the bottom half of her hair before showering. This cunning DIY trick means that the mid-lengths and ends are protected when shampooing, so the soap can't strip all the natural moisture and dry it out. Blake's mum taught her this trick and it seems to have served her well. Just make sure you rinse thoroughly.

3. Use honey as a face mask
Honey (it has to be raw honey, mind you) has antibacterial properties and is very effective at helping acne-prone skin. Slather on your face, leave for 10 minutes, wash off with warm water and the job's a good'un. Some people complain that the honey draws out the toxins, causing problem skin to get worse before it gets better, but in the long run it's a good solution. 

4. Use baking soda on teeth to make them whiter

Are you loathed to splash out on expensive teeth whitening kits? Try mixing one tablespoon of baking soda with three drops of hydrogen peroxide then use it as a toothpaste for a healthy set of pearly whites. 

5. Shave legs with hair conditioner
Forget spending money on a separate shaving foam, simply use hair conditioner instead. It's super moisturising, makes the hairs softer and therefore easier to shave. Winning. 

4. Use evening primrose oil to help spots heal faster

Burst an evening primrose oil capsule and apply to troublesome spots to help them heal in half the time. It has anti-inflammatory properties, which can really help take the redness out of sore spots. Apply overnight and sleep in it for best results. 

6. Never EVER go without a pot of Vaseline
Petroleum jelly has countless uses. One of our favourite things to do is slather it all over our feet, slip on a pair of fluffy socks and then sleep. If you dye your own hair, it's great for preventing the dye from staining your skin, just use it as a barrier around the hairline, ears and neck. Finally, it can also be used to tame unruly eyebrows. 

7. Lemon peel can remove nail varnish stains
If dark nail polish has stained your nails, simply rub some lemon peel on the stubborn spot. Soaking the tips of your nails in lemon juice can also make then whiter. 

8. Use an orange to exfoliate
The acid and Vitamin C in oranges makes for an excellent exfoliator. If you don't have time to be concucting fancy homemade potions and lotions, simply cut an orange in half and use on your knees and elbows. 

9. Shave your legs last
If you tend to get bumpy or irritated legs after shaving, do it at the end of your shower when the warm water will have opened up your pores and the hair will be softer. 

10. Keep your beauty products in the fridge
Not all of them, obviously, but nail varnishes, eyebrow & eyeliner pencils and lipsticks can all be kept in the chilled section. Doing this will make your polishes last longer, as well as causing lip & eye pencils to be firmer and therefore give sharper lines. 

11. Serum + foundation = beautifully soft skin
Add a drop of serum (we love Estée Lauder Advanced Night Repair) to your foundation to give your skin an extra glow. 

12. Add a drop of peppermint oil to your lipgloss
Add just a drop for a plumped up pout. Warning: it may tingle. 

Top 10 Dos and Don’ts for Your Male to Female Transformation


So many things go into being a woman… makeup and clothing are just the beginning!

To help you be your best feminine self, here are my top 10 dos and don’ts for your male to female transformation.

1. DON’T compare yourself to cisgender women

Comparing yourself to cisgender (genetic) women can set you up for disappointment. Remember, they have a lot of advantages – including being born and raised female!

This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being the best feminine version of YOU.

2. DO find female role models

While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.

When you see a woman who looks put together, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave? You don’t need to be a copycat, but incorporate some of these details into your own image.

3. DO invest in great shaping wear

The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so one of the most important items to invest in is great shapewear. This is even more essential than spending money on expensive clothing!

Depending on your natural shape, you may want to invest in the following:

  • Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
  • Waist cincher
  • Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
  • Control top pantyhose

4. DON’T forget your voice

There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.

While it’s not essential to have the most perfectly pitched voice, putting some effort into a congruent voice will have a big impact on your image. Check out The 30 Day Crash Course for a guided 30 day voice feminization program.

5. DO dress age appropriately

Dressing appropriately for your age is a style must for every woman.

This is NOT to suggest that you have to look like a frump if you are above a certain age. You simply need to choose pieces that reflect the best version of you without looking too young or too old. See my 3 Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age for more on this topic.

6. DON’T overdo it

The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!

Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your movements are all no-nos. These big mistakes attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.

7. DO get a second opinion

It’s hard to see ourselves objectively. That’s why everybody needs a trusted friend for a second opinion. If you don’t have a girlfriend you trust nearby, find a forum or even post your images in the comments section here for an objective opinion on your image.

8. DO choose your environment wisely

Your safely is the most important thing, so needless to say, you should choose your environment wisely. If you go out en femme, do so in a safe environment where you are likely to be met with acceptance and support.

9. DO practice your moves

Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine. Check out these articles for more tips:

10. DON’T forget to have fun

Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun! Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the woman that you are!

What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?

Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!  

7 Belly-Flattening Fashion Tricks for Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women

An attractive waist-to-hip ratio is an important symbol of feminine beauty.

Does that mean all hope is lost if your tummy is your trouble spot?

Absolutely not! For an instant fix, just work a few strategic tummy-trimming and waistline-slimming looks into your wardrobe.

Aside from making you look thinner, these will also help create a more feminine, hourglass shape.

Keep reading for my top 7 belly-flattening fashion tricks for crossdressers and MTF transgender women:

Trick #1: Wear a shaping camisole

Corsets and girdles will certainly pull you in, but they’re not very comfortable for daily wear.

Instead, wear a shaping camisole under your clothes. It’s a wonderful alternative for trimming inches from your waist and belly – while still allowing you to breath.

Trick #2: Try a tummy-minimizing peplum


Peplums are very “in” right now and they’re a fabulous style for crossdressers and MTF transgender women.

A peplum is a short overskirt attached at the waistline of a top, dress, or jacket that’s perfect for covering a full belly. And thanks to the fit-and-flare styling, a peplum will also give you that sexy hourglass shape.

Trick #3: Avoid bottoms that sit too far above or below your waistline


If you have a big belly, the waistband of your skirt or pants should sit just below your belly button.

If the waistband is too high, it’ll look like your stomach is popping out below. If the waistband is too low, you’ll get the “muffin top” look.

Trick #4: Wear a light colored jacket over a dark top

Wearing a light colored jacket over a dark top is a great way to downplay an ample tummy. The jacket conceals excess poundage while the dark color underneath makes your belly recede into the background.

For the best results, look for a jacket with some shape. Princess seams are especially feminine and flattering.

Trick #5: Downplay belly rolls with a ruched top


Ruching (i.e. fabric that’s gathered along the seam line) is perfect for concealing an ample belly.

Unlike “flat” fabrics that reveal every bulge, ruching hides what’s underneath – including those dreaded belly rolls.

Trick #6: Just say “no” to tight clothes


If your belly is your trouble spot, you definitely want to avoid wearing tight clothes.

Clothes that are too tight (including bras and panties) will dig in and create unsightly bulges – calling even more attention to the area.

Trick #7: Avoid oversized clothes

Just as you should avoid clothes that are too tight, neither do you want to wear clothes that are too loose. Trying to hide a big belly under an oversized top just makes you look bigger.

Instead, your most flattering option is clothes that skim – rather than drown – your midsection.

No more trouble spots
Looking your best as a woman is all about downplaying trouble spots while playing up your assets.

Use these tricks to solve your “tummy troubles” and then move on! It’s impossible for people to notice your flaws if they’re too busy looking at something else – like your sexy legs, breasts, or behind.

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

What are your best feminine features – and how do you like to show them off?

Please share in the comments below!

How to Walk Like a Woman (MTF Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Your walk is a critical aspect of your feminine image. Unfortunately, it’s easy to go from one extreme (a masculine walk) to the other (over-exaggerated hip swinging).

How can you find a happy medium as you master your feminine movements? Read on for 3 simple tips to help you achieve a natural, womanly walk.


A big difference between men and women is that women tend to have more fluid body movements.

That means you can sway your hips all you want – but until you learn how to “loosen up,” your feminine walk will always look stiff and unnatural.

The Hip Matrix can help with this. Created by movement specialist Rob Brinded, the Hip Matrix exercise is designed to release tension and free up your body movements so you can achieve a flowing, feminine walk.

Watch the video above and then try it for yourself. If you compare your walk before and after, I promise you’ll be amazed by the difference! (Learn more about Rob’s approach to feminine movement in my Stepping Out Secrets Program.)


Women have a lower center of gravity than men due to their wider hips. This creates that sexy hip sway that’s characteristic of a feminine walk.

Forcing your hips to sway usually looks unnatural. Instead, practice walking in high heels. High heels change your center of gravity and exaggerate the forward curve of your spine. This helps release the hips, which naturally feminizes your movements.

You can enhance this effect by trying to keep your shoulders still as you walk. This forces you to use your hips for balance.

Once you’ve mastered hip walking in heels, practice the same movements in flat shoes.


Shortening your stride is another easy and effective way to feminize your walk.

The average woman’s step length (the distance from the toe of one foot to the toe of the opposite foot) is 26”. So if you want to be scientific about it, get out a ruler and measure your steps! Your natural stride is probably longer, so work on taking shorter steps.

Note: The higher your heels are, the shorter your steps should be.


There are other subtle elements that define a feminine walk, but these tips are a great place to start. Give them a try and let me know what you think!

I’d also love to hear about any other movement tips or techniques you’ve found helpful. Please share in the comments below.


6 Feminization Tips from Old Hollywood (For Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women)

On your journey to becoming a fabulous female, it helps to look at role models. Some of my favorite examples of beauty and femininity are the leading ladies of Old Hollywood.

Want to add more sparkle and glamour to your life? Try these 6 tips from Old Hollywood that can be applied to your own feminine transformation!


“I think that the most important thing a woman can have – next to talent, of course – is her hairdresser.” – Joan Crawford

Few things have a bigger impact on your appearance than your hair. This applies whether you wear a wig or style your own natural hair. If you want to look younger, prettier, and more feminine, the right hairstyle is the secret. Here are the 6 best hairstyles for crossdressers and transgender women.


“Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful.” – Sophia Loren

All the lipstick, hairspray, and surgery in the world can’t make you beautiful if you don’t feel it on the inside. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own unique beauty and femininity. Take the advice of Sophia Loren and believe that you are beautiful.


“Elegance is the only beauty that never fades.” – Audrey Hepburn

Who could be more elegant than Audrey Hepburn herself? With her sophisticated style and graceful demeanor, she’s my favorite example of ladylike elegance. If you want to emulate Audrey Hepburn, you can start by avoiding these 5 mistakes that make you less ladylike.


“I have used all the manure that has been thrown on me as fertilizer to make me stronger.” – Eartha Kitt

If there are people in your life who don’t understand you, rest assured that you are not alone. Even somebody as fabulous and gorgeous as Eartha Kitt had her share of haters. Instead of letting them get you down, use their manure as fertilizer to make you grow stronger.


“What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course.” – Marilyn Monroe

Scent is strongly linked to emotions, which means the right perfume can make you feel irresistibly feminine. Scent also triggers memories. Applying a signature scent that makes you feel fabulous can instantly bring back feelings of confidence and femininity. Take a tip from Marilyn Monroe and find your own signature scent.


“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” – Mae West

Choosing to embrace the woman within is a bold decision. You should be applauded for this! Many people never dare to express their deepest desires or true selves. As Mae West said, you only live once. So live life to the fullest – feminine self and all!


As you as inspired by these classic beauties as I am? If so, I’d love to know who you favorite Old Hollywood actresses are – and which “lessons” you have learned from them.

Please share in the comments below!